Okay i have been with my bf for 4 yrs actually more like 5 yrs in total.Anyway 3 months ago he asked me to marry him after loads of drama read one of the previous posts if you would like more info.I was so happy and relieved when he asked but he has been a bit cold and indifferent to whole thing.His Baby's mama mother of his 7 yr old son just called off her wedding after finding out her fiancee had cheated on her and that he was unsure if he loved her.My bf has been spending more more time at her place he says its for his son.But now my bf wants to take a break and go take the honeymoon BM has with her and son? Fiancee claims he loves me in some form of "love" but says he needs to explore his feelings and needs a break?He claims these feeling started when he read what would have been our wedding vows before BM became availiable again?What does that mean?
I love him and dont want feel like i wasted 5 yrs of my life?
2007-07-01 06:40:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My friends say this is his nice way of breaking up with me.
2007-07-01 06:43:26 · update #1
Could very wellbe but in my book its kinda chicken sh.t if you know what I mean. Instead of beating around the bush,he needs to come directly to the point.You deserve that much. I would say that either way hes breaking upwith you and returning to his ex where his heart really is. Hes probably hoping you get the picture with much ado and be gone out of his life for good once he returns. It is time for you to move on and dont look back here. Sorry and good luck
2007-07-01 06:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to believe your BF right now. He sounds as if he is confused and is trying to figure out how he feels about you and his sons mother. Love comes in many forms and though he may love you, his love may not be the kind you feel toward him. You cannot make someone love you if they don't no mater how intense your feelings for them might be. Painful as that might be, it is far better to find out now rather after you've been married for a time. On the other hand, he may come to realize that he loves only you and cannot picture loving anyone more than you. Bottom line is that you must let him be honest and if he needs time, give it to him. Hang in there.
2007-07-01 13:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief. Why doesn't the jerk just come out and say it... he doesn't love you anymore. This whole load of crap about exploring his feelings and blah, blah, blah is just a run around . He's back with the baby's mother. Cut your losses and thank God you are not marrying this loser. Turn around, walk away, and never look back.
2007-07-01 13:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he doesnt have a clue what he wants and is just making excuses instead of telling you straight out that he wants to break up.
2007-07-01 13:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by tinkswings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋