my ex husband is a verbal abuser, should i record our phone conversations as "proof" in court, when i take him back to court for custody issues with my daughter?
2007-07-01 06:24:26 · 10 answers · asked by xxtr8sbabygurlxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my ex husband is verbally abusive, should i record our conversations as *proof*?.............. he IS verbally abusive to my daughter too. He called her a ***** and told her he didnt want her anymore. She's only 4. I know you have to tell the other person you are recording the conversation, but he honestly thinks he is perfect. that he can do no wrong. that he is always right, so he won't care, he'll still be the same way, being recorded or not. He threatened to kill me outside the court room the day we got divorced. I don't know what kind of father he is, I only know what kind of person he is. I left him because of the abuse and I know his current girlfriend is under going not only verbal, but physical abuse as well. He told me so himself. Not to mention the stories Serenity brings home about the fights that happen there and what the cops do. She's 4 years old and she knows all about going to jail. I just want to protect my daughter.
2007-07-01 06:47:07 · update #1
before you come on here putting me down maybe you should get ALL the facts first. I'm not taking HIM back to court for custody issues. He's trying to take her from me. SO cut the crap, I didn't say I would do this Illegally either so like I said, gets ur facts straight.
2007-07-01 07:00:37 · update #2
***so terribly sorry, yes i AM taking him back to court, but only because he's trying to take her away from me. he only wants her to control me, and he's not going to get either, so if ur trying to take his side, all u gotta do is tell me, ill give u his name and phone number then maybe the two of u could catch a movie or something, who knows.
2007-07-01 07:05:30 · update #3
Be careful of him when you leave the court. I think you should find a way to record how he speaks to you and especially any threats or ill spoken words about your child. I wish you luck in this and also to your 4 yr old. The kids are always the ones affected and everything has to be thought out for there sake. Hopefully everything works out.
I do have one comment for the flagger mouth..it looks like you have been in this situation yourself as the abuser and the tightwad etc..you seem like such a bitter bitter little man. I hope you get a life and get that cross off your shoulder.
2007-07-01 07:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by cinderellas_match 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will not be a popular answer.
It is time for you to get over the "verbal abuse" crap.
Verbal abuse, real verbal abuse is assault. It comes with threat of physical violence. It will be quite difficult for you to prove that threat over a phone, unless of course it is a cell phone outside your door. At that point you should call the police.
The general concept of verbal abuse is crap. Sticks and stones. Words?
You have already created an adversarial relationship with him and are only reinforcing it by dragging him back to court for "custody issues". You really should expect some verbiage you do not like.
As for your other "issues" I don't much care who caused what.
To ask that you should illegally ( without prior notification)record phone conversations to bolster your case makes you come off as spiteful and revengeful.
Is this really in your Child's best interest?
2007-07-01 13:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In England you have to inform someone if you are recording your conversation over the phone. It may be different where you are.
Also, I understand he may be verbally abusive to you, but this is no reflection on how well he parents your child. He could talk to you like you are a piece of **** (which I know isn't nice) but then still be a good father. They are separate issues.
I'd get some advice off a good lawyer & if you say you are going to court then you muct have one already.
2007-07-01 13:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by bow-wow-wow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Phone tapswithout the other persons consent is illegal so it wont do you any good. Its a good idea but just illegal to do so the courts would throw it out anyway
2007-07-01 13:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
record and also document document document. I had to provide tons of documentation for my custody fight with my ex. Document everything, even if it seems miniscule, it will add up and make a huge difference to your case.
2007-07-01 13:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by hailstorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and inform him you're recording everything he ever says to you from now on and he better watch it.
2007-07-01 13:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup.
But you have to do it legally, like in your house when you are talking to him, not in a public place. Contact a lawyer for exact restrictions.
2007-07-01 13:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure it is legal in your state to record someone without there knowledge, if its not legal in your state and you take it to court, they might get you for doing it,
2007-07-01 23:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by tammy g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means yes! It can't hurt and more than likely will help.
2007-07-01 13:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES - definitely!
2007-07-01 13:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋