ok so i have posted a few things on here asking i anyone thougth i was gay. i had a girlfriend for 3 years whom i had sex with often and was very attracted to girls and not guys we broke up about 8 months ago and i had sex with another girl and liekd it. then one day i startted becomin less attracted to girls and more to guys. every now and then i woudl mix it up and masterbate to guys, not very often thogh. so some people told me to try a guy which i did and hated it. but im still depressed and not as attracted to girls liek i sued to be. im obviously not gay, at least i dont tihnk so, but how do i get those feelings back. how do i stop now and go back to normal. i need help im very depressed and will not accept a gay life.
2007-07-01 06:04:38 · 12 answers · asked by tmoney2803 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Uhm... Doesn't work like that. Just 'cuz you don't like gay sex doesn't mean you aren't gay. You can still like guys. ANd you don't have to ACT gay.
But as for the sex, I heard you get used to it up in there after a while and it starts to feel good.
2007-07-01 06:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to put yourself in a box. Focus on finding a person you really click with, not just figuring out your sexuality, which people have probably taught you is a label you're stuck with all your life.
Some guys are hot, some are not.
Some girls are hot, some are not.
Don't go for a group of people.
Go for an individual who really does it for you.
Be patient and don't condemn yourself either way, especially not for fantasies.
2007-07-01 13:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by topink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't enjoy being with a guy, why do you think your gay? Maybe you just need to spice up your sex life, try something different and out of the norm for you. It doesn't sound like you're gay to me. I think you were just going through a curious phase.
2007-07-01 13:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by USN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear boy..
what an internal torment you are putting yourself through..
trust me.. coming out or working out sexuality is an evolutionary and time consuming process.. dont rush it..
and sexuality is not defined.. if you come out tmw.. and later meet a girl that you fall madly in love with.. that proclaimed 'gay' status wont restrict your emotions.. vice versa.. if you are determined to live as a 'straight' man .. you still might find yourself falling for and craving the attention of men..
if you are continuing to question your sexuality and still disatisfied with people telling you that youre either gay or straight then you are clearly still unsure on the matter yourself..
timing has a lot to do with everything.. dont put pressure on yourself.. and remember just cos you slept with a boy and it wasnt fireworks and lightening the first time.. doesnt mean that at the right time it wont be everything you are obviously searching for..
labels 'gay', 'straight', 'bi' etc. really just stand to bind us for other peoples categorisation... do yourself a service and relax and dont define yourself by who you sleep with or are attracted to.. let it happen naturally and you might just be surprised where life takes you..
best wishes
- lazy susan
2007-07-01 13:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oviously u didnt like males so move on to different females find ones that make u happy n that ur comfortable with because there is a lot of females out there just find the right one experiment in diffferent ways with females n stop thinking negativly
2007-07-01 13:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by L3ZBiiAN SW33TZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, technically you could deny who you are and live a heterosexual life. But that will mean you always being depressed and tortured.
You don't get to choose what you feel, just whether or not you act on it.
Whatever you do, good luck
2007-07-01 13:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Threshin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not committing to Anything makes a person lose faith in theirself and become depressed. Start all over. At the very beginning. Christianity will help you, if you dare.
2007-07-01 13:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's normal, I think women are beautiful but I'm not attracted to them. You're probably just upset over your girlfriend and got a little messed up. You're straight... trust me.
2007-07-01 13:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then don't be gay. I hereby officially cure you! (waving my magic fairy wand... sheesh this IS degrading) There, you're not gay. Costs you 2 points, thank you very much.
2007-07-01 13:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give it more time. you'll figure out which orientation you are soon, everyone does. as for the not wanting to become gay part, idk why you don't want to be.
2007-07-01 19:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by ?Jay Red! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋