i have been with my girlfriend for 6mth now after knowing each other for 2 years.. i have been an out femme lesbian since i was 18 (now late 20's) so am comfortable with my sexuality, past relationships etc.. however prior to me my current partner had no same sex tendancies or experiences.. this didnt bother me.. as i have obviously wooed her since.. everything is all go now &to me feel like any other lesbian r/ship i've been in.. however it now plays on my mind though wondering why if she professes that i am her one and only why its still important for her to asert her straight status... and does it really matter what she says if in practice her behaviour is quite different.. i feel like somehow i wont be satisfied until she proclaims herself a born again lesbian.. that cant be right... advice? comments?
- lazy susan
2007-07-01 05:57:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
dont over anylise.. take things as they come. If it is meant to be it will be. Instead just enjoy each other for the time being. t
2007-07-02 14:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is not sure of herself and is afraid that the society or people around her can't accept her. That is why she still asert her straight status. Perhaps she is confused too and if especially she is still young.. To be very frank, I am in my late 20's now and I know I have always wanted to have a girlfriend but reality permits me. That explains too why a bi like me will still asert the straight status. At least you still have a girlfriend. But hope the best for you...
2007-07-01 13:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Seasons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it necessary that she "proclaim?" Maybe she's not ready to be Out and Proud. Maybe she has issues about how society will view her. Maybe there are issues regarding her job. Here are some things to consider. Do you live in a Red State or Blue State? What's the community like? Is she young? Are her parents alive? If so, how will they react? Perhaps the household she lives in has issues with homosexuality. She might not be ready to say she's one way or the other. Maybe she should talk to someone other than you regarding her sexual preferences. Maybe she needs to find her comfort zone.
2007-07-01 13:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by L.A. H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, I do not think that this question should become an issue between the two of you. If you are in love and are being intimate with one another, what does it really matter? She loves you and you love her so what does it really matter? Perhaps it gives her a sense of security to call herslef straight, to allow her to go back to a straight lifestyle if she ever needed to. But for now, if you love her and allow her to love you, she would not ever have the reason to be staright again. She has you!
2007-07-02 20:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Talon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay people who insist they are straight are one of the odd features of the scene. It goes to show how intense the pressures of society are on some conflicted people. Good luck .
2007-07-01 20:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that some people just struggle harder with this than others. Give her time and support, that's about all you can do...
It took me over five years to admit that I was a Republican, after all.
(And I'm a NICE Republican, too, dammit!)
2007-07-01 13:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Cake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put a label on sexuality and chemistry???
Why can't everyone accept the fact that we are attracted by chemistry and not what sexual organ one has?
Maybe she is attracted to you for you and not because of your sexual organ.
If she becomes attracted to someone else , it will be because of chemistry and not because of the sexual organ they have, it will be because what they have to offer her spirit for her happiness.
Don't you feel that your spirit glows when you are with her?
It should be about that and not about what biological functions we posses.
2007-07-01 13:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Himiko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could talk to her about this. She probably hasn't come out yet and faces the fears of loss of family and friendship that we all face whilst in the closet.
2007-07-01 13:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Iacobus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋