I'm 23, female, and married. I have a few friends (but not a best friend, besides my husband) but I would like to have more. I have met very interesting people that I would like to make friends with but I get so nervous and will not ask them to hang out (go to the movies, shopping....). I feel that they won't like who I am. No one ever asked me to hang out with them, so I feel I'm not likeable. I have always been this way. I have never been fat, but I am overweight and I feel I never look good in the clothes I wear. My husband thinks I'm crazy and that I shouldn't have a problem making friends. I feel like a middle school boy trying to ask a girl on a date when I want to ask someone to be my friend or hang out. I do like myself and feel I'm a very interesting person. What are some ways I can get over feeling this way and make new freinds?
2007-07-01 05:35:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am sorry, but just try being yourself!
2007-07-01 05:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Narrator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People act toward other people in a manner that they think the other person would expect them to act. If you feel shy, you think that the other person would expect you to be shy toward him/her. However, if you consciously remind yourself that the other person does NOT know you, then that person has no expectations towards you. Therefore, you could be anybody, with any personality, for all that person knows. Put on an outgoing "face" and address that person accordingly while keeping your inner quaking hidden. For the first few times that you do that, it will be very strange inside. As you find the strangers accepting the person that you present, the quaking will reduce and the outgoing person will replace the shy one. Trust me, it works. Honest.
2007-07-01 12:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by MICHAEL R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel this way. Just ask them to come with you to shopping or something and if they come you've made your friends.If they don't and give back an undesirable response just forget them and who knows you'll meet your true friend or friends after that. Don't forget there's always someone for you out there and feels you're a great person.
2007-07-01 12:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by deilaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some confidence boosters, I always found [I'm in similar situation, over weight and used to be shy as hell,] that finding a hobby you love and finding other people who share your interests works well. Conversation isn't forced, it's natural, and you'll make friends with at least one interest you both share. For me, it's theater. My high school plays brought me out of my shy shell, and that helped me with public speaking in front of large audiences, and even talking to people I used to think 'out of my league' to even look at.
2007-07-01 13:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋