I have been married for 6 years and with him for 11 years. He is a great guy. The problem is that we work and go to school and only see eachother for about 2 hours a day. He is very buisness minded. I am bored and lonely. When we are together, we end up watching tv in seperate rooms and then go to bed. That is our 2 hours together. We never had anything in common, but that is what orignally drove us to eachother. I feel we never really had a intimate connection. We are more like best friends or roommates. Is this normal? I could leave and end up with somone terrible and he is a great guy, we just have no connection to eachother and never had. Were just to busy to know it. We have focus on our careers alot. I thought maybe if we tried to have a baby, that might strenghten that bond between us, but somedays I'm ready, other days I freak out at the thought of being commited to him for life. I love him, but in love with him, I don't know if that bond was ever there.
2007-07-01 05:08:58 · 5 answers · asked by just me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all have you discussed your feelings with him, regarding the issue? In my long experience as a man, I've found that the more couples communicate the fewer issues like this they have. If you truly love him then force him to sit down with you and tell him what you want, men are very 1 dimensional in that respect, speaking from experience here. We are by nature focused on solving problems, providing for the family, things of this nature. Love and romance, we have to actually put some thought into that and some effort. I'm sure he loves you very much and thinks about you all the time, he just doesn't know how to make that transition from emotion to action. Communication is the key, trust me!
2007-07-01 05:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to love him as a friend, not a husband. I hate to say it, but if that's true, this will eventually ruin the marriage. You have to be in love. You have to want to go out of your way to be together and when you are together, just making each other happy. You can't go your own separate ways, in your own house for the two hours you could be together.
The two of you are not communicating and that is causing you to become very distant from one another. That is not marriage. You said it, your more like roommates. Don't ignore this You have to confront him and you have to tell him how you feel and find out what he is feeling. This is your husband and this is your life! Don't waste another minute. Good Luck
2007-07-01 12:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no question that you two were married for the wrong reasons. You settled for a friend when you knew in the beginning that it wouldn't go any further. Having a baby for the sake of the relationship would be the ultimately most worst thing that you could do.
2007-07-01 12:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to disconnect yourself from daily routine. One day is not going to kill you guys. Your relationship is well worth it--it hard to find a great partner. Good Luck!
2007-07-01 12:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by Rafa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-01 13:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋