I had back surgery in March. I was living with my parents who decided to get a divorce while I was in the hospital. When I got out, I moved in with my boyfriend and his uncle. I had no where else to go and I couldn't take care of myself. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment right now, my daughter, me and my boyfriend share a room, she sleeps on a fold out futon in here in my room with me right now. I can not currently work, my doctor signed a paper that said I am temporarly disabled. My daughter Serenity is 4, and she's a very hyper active child so I decided to get tested for Attention Defisit Disorders. I feel its in her best interest. My ex husband was in agreement with me but he changed his mind a few days later and now he's threating to take serenity away from me becuase of our living circumstances. I am currently on the waiting list for housing to get a place for me and my daughter.. he can't take her from me can he? PLEASE HELP! i have full physical custody and we share joint legal.
2007-07-01 03:57:59 · 9 answers · asked by xxtr8sbabygurlxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first of all i want to say how sorry i am for not only you ,but your daughter. assuming that you are a loving ,caring parent as well as your significant other and you both have your child best interest at heart , i would talk or write aletter directly to the judge that handled your custody case. that is if you dont already have a lawyer. also, if you dont have a lawyer, i would strongly suggest getting one since your ex seems to be so unpredictable. dont let the lack of money stop you no matter what. you need to stay a step ahead of your ex at all times. thats why i suggest the letter directly to the judge. there are alot of lawyers who do cases for free for people who cant afford the cost. start making phone calls. asking questions. if nothing else you can always get a free consultation from almost any attorney. you will need a family law attorney. if you are serious about this , someone will see that and step up to the plate to help you. good luck.
2007-07-01 04:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by SOLOINIT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible and just because you have things written one way doesn't mean they are not changable. In fact, they are very changable. Been there, did that. My advice is for you to change your living conditions and right away. The courts do not like a child sleeping in the same room as adults. I'm from Indiana and I went through this, lost custody, and gained it back after making changes. Living with a boyfriend doesn't help either. You could be in for more trouble over that one, too. Good Luck!
PS: After reading some of the other answers, I feel I need to say that you do need to worry about your ex and what he might say. Child molestation is a very serious crime and a very serious (hopefully) false accusation. In a heated divorce/custody situation many people grab for this as a weapon, which is why I stated you should change your living arrangements. I agree with others that you DO need a lawyer. I never saw this coming when it happened to me and I don't want anyone to be blind-sided by such an event. Even though it was a false accusation, It left emotional scars on my children and myself and that was years ago and alienated the kids from their dad. Thankfully, all that is patched up now, but anger can do some ugly things.
2007-07-01 04:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your living circumstances are temporary. It sounds as though your boyfriends attitude is permanent. Since I have just recently moved from Indiana after spending the majority of my life there, I feel as though I may be able to offer a little insight to you. Since you are not married to this guy, rest easy. As it will be extremely difficult for him to do anything about the custody issue. Proving a woman unfit in Indiana is one of the toughest things to do. The judge will look at him and ask him what HE was doing to rectify the situation. As far as you looking for assistance, your doing the right thing. Here is a very big issue as far as Indiana child protection is concerned.Does the child have her OWN bed to sleep in at night? Does she have clean cloths to wear? Is she being fed regularly each day? Is she housed in a protective enviroment? If the answer to these questions are yes, then tell the guy to take a flying leap. Then move out and enjoy your lives as he is ordered to pay you support. I wish both you and your daughter the best of luck.
2007-07-01 04:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Harrison Ford used to be capable to drag the individual off with that identify on account that of who the individual used to be within the film. However, except the youngster goes to be a different Indiana Jones, I'd recommend going with anything extra delicate and functional like Denver or Aspen.
2016-09-05 11:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet here would be talk to a Judge and convince him to issue a temporary injunction halting dads attempt for custody for now til you get better arrangements but bring all papers and evidence you have to better convince the Judge. Good luck
2007-07-01 04:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to an attorney to see what your rights are. I would think you would be able to get state disability. So you can get a place to live. Is he currently paying child support? If not he should be.
2007-07-01 04:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not on drugs, a prostitute, or mistreating her or neglecting her. You are just having a tough time.. I HIGHLY doubt there is anything he can do to take her. You are caring for her and providing her a home.... not to mention you are trying to move onto better circumstances so it's not like you are set on staying there.
Focus on your daughter and don't worry about your ex.
2007-07-01 04:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he takes you to court.... all you can do is fight. fight for your daughter.... and fight for custody.
2007-07-01 04:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an attorney. Please contact one immediately.
2007-07-01 04:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋