2007-07-01 03:47:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're interested in marital counseling I'd definitely look into that. Or you could start by planning one night a week as "date night" and do something together like dinner. They can start by talking about why they think they're growing apart. Maybe one spouse is going through something the other doesn't know about.
2007-07-01 03:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Judy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Try that for a while. Also try couples therapy. Somethings wrong somewhere, maybe one of you have outgrown the other one. That's the usual answer underneath everything else. The one that choose not grow in life, becomes bitter and angry because the other one changed!!!
You need to meet the other person half way, do some soul searching, go back and look at all the past pictures, vacations and early parts of the relationship, therapist say that's what helps when couples grow about, go to a place where you first saw the sparks, and maybe spend a week there and etc.
Every couple is different, there's no magic answer, just suggestions!!
Good Luck!!!
2007-07-01 03:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends why, hard to answer without details. We went to a marriage seminar called "Weekend to Remember" It is Christian based, so don't be offended. It will blow your mind away and if you do it right, there is NO way after that weekend you won't be closer. It is a 3 day 2 night seminar. If you have financial difficulties. Talk to a pastor, some churches will pay for you to go out of a benevolence fund. The weekend brings you back to where you were when you were dating and then progresses you through conflict and then how to love again. On the 3rd day the men and ladies split for a couple hours and talk about "Men" and "Woman" issues. I promise you will succeed at this. It is put on by Familylife.org
Good luck...Email me with questions...
2007-07-01 05:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We have been married 20+ years. All couples have times they drift apart. The key is patience and finding new things to do together. Something you both enjoy, like travel, outdoor recreation or whatever intrests you can find for both of you.
2007-07-01 04:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK,.... I was married for 30 years, he messed up big time with the lies etc. I was in for the long haul, he was not, so now we are going through a divorce, this is like a old saying "YOU CAN LEAD A HORSE TO WATER BUT YOU CAN NOT MAKE THEM DRINK THE WATER"
2007-07-01 03:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek a good counselor you can stick with or as crazy as this sounds..
Go to a local bookstore and get a Dr.Phil book.
I know a lot of people that reccommend that in a situation like this.
2007-07-01 03:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by ♥whit. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you both have the ability to control the situation. Find the things that you enjoy doing together, if you can't think of anything came up with someone new and adventurous.
2007-07-01 04:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rafa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what is making them not as close. If it's another person(cheating, by one or the other), then there's not much that will work to bring them back closer. If it's a misunderstanding, by one or the other, then a long, honest talk, will work wonders. Good Luck!
2007-07-01 03:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sit down and talk about what is going on in their relationship.
2007-07-01 04:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by lz_adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to remember what made you guys fall in love years ago. and try to bring all that back:)
2007-07-01 04:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋