time they change their minds and say "I DON'T", why can't people just stay true to their words anymore? What is so different these days compared to the yester years when saying "I LOVE YOU" actually meant something?
2007-07-01 03:42:56 · 17 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Years ago, a man and a woman, respectfully fell in love with morals and values and they were married for all the right reasons. LOVE
Woman have alot to do with this, because years ago they didn't sleep with every creature that walked by them. Those woman had alot more class.
Today they get married, because they THINK they're in love, or way too soon, way too young, for money, for a place to live, because they are pregnant and because their partner was good in bed. THEY ARE SICK AND THEY ARE STUPID, BECAUSE SO MANY CHILDREN SUFFER WITHOUT PARENTS, but don't forget that's the way they were raised.
Those people are ruining the meaning of marriage. They are blaming it on marriage. MARRIAGE IS FABULOUS. It is the most wonderful thing in the world.
I waited for the man of my dreams and because I dated alot of men, I knew what I wanted. He arrived when I was 33 years old. We were married 5 years later and my God, it was worth the wait. I have the best marriage for 13 years now and this will go till death do us part, because all we do is take care of each other. I am in this marriage, because I love that man to death and I will do anything to make him happy. There is nothing selfish in our marriage.
DO NOT ATTACK MARRIAGE. IT'S THE PEOPLE THAT GET MARRIED FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS.
IF IT IS NOT TRUE LOVE, THEN IT WILL END IN DIVORCE!
2007-07-01 04:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Some say "I Do" when they should say, "I don't know" We all make mistakes in judgment, unwise choices, and absurd decisions. This is why I tell those who want to make a big production out of popping the question, don't do it in front of more people than you and her! She needs to know that the right choice will not be received with "oh no's" I've only seen one girl say no in a crowded auditorium of people. It was the worst thing for the guy and the right choice for her! All the others say yes and regret it! I also think that words are not the only things that don't have staying power. The romance the guy shows only lasts till the honeymoon, then dissolves. This is also considered being untrue to your words. Hell, it's untrue to your actions, which I consider worst! And "LOVE" is a "verb", it implies action! Something that we do! Don't get me wrong, saying "I Love You" is important, very important. Meaning it and showing it are more important.
2007-07-01 04:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion on this subject is that the words "I love you" are so easily thrown about and at a much earlier stage now days. People don't seem to put as much thought into later years before actually getting married. At the time of actually saying "I do", I am without doubt that they will actually mean it. However with time, they find that enough time and thought wasn't put into it before hand. I myself was in this same boat a whole lot of years ago. After that dreadful divorce and placing allot of thought into it for the following 20 years however, I was able to say "I do" with true conviction. Now over 15 years later, my marriage is still as strong as the first day and I credit this to the fact that we waited and studied each other for a longer period of time. Just my opinion.
2007-07-01 04:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time chages everything including feelings. The toughest test for any marriage is the test of time. With time, either peoples feelings grow or fade and thus the fate of the marriage.This is why marriages or relationships must continue to grow and flourish to survive. Alot of marriages fall into deep ruts and never seem to get out of them as do peoples feelings sometimes. If entering a marriage under the false premises of wat is actually infatuation and not true love, the marriage is doomed to disaster. With a good marriage time actually unites a couple into one, actually building on each others feelings for a solid future. Nowalot of things in todays society are bringing the demise of the family and marrige, none of which is bigger than the TV and its "perfect" life dramas.
2007-07-01 04:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because this is the "if you don't like it throw it away and get anew one" age. There really is no committment. It is not modeled for us by our parents, the government, the employer, or anyone else that youth look up to including celebrities.
Then add all the hedonistic things that children receive as gifts...how many children have more than one type of gaming system in their home? Yes, the chores and responsibilities we place on them are narrowing...
We are not teaching committment, or responsibility, therefore it is not a priority any longer.
2007-07-01 03:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by Carol B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's the problem in your life concerning this issue or are you just ranting, do you need our help in making a particular decision in your life or what?
btw, things haven't changed that much, many many people would have gotten divorces back then if they could. Husbands who cheated on their wives, but the women felt like they didn't have the ability to leave the jerk. It's just that now the resources are more available and people take less crap from their spouses.
2007-07-01 03:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its because people get married too early in life. Or they get married to quickly, assuming that THIS IS THE ONE FOR ME without really taking the time to get to know the person. Or they get married and its not as "cool" to play house as shown on TV then they change their minds. Or they get married just because they feel that since everyone else is doing it, thats what I am suppose to do too. Or they just simply change their minds.
Some people just dont know what real love is.
2007-07-01 04:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when your dating it more of a lust thing...your so inlove with the thought of being inlove and when you get married and after the honeymoon time everything starts to get normal and then very boring...some like the excitement and didnt want it to change...and some cannot get it together and are having finance problems and there are some that have sex additictions...and there is alot of other stuff that could go on...
2007-07-01 03:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they say that just at the moment just to get what they want right then and now, when someone tells me something I hold them to their words, be up front and honest with each other is all we want, but NO......... some must play this stupid game, I have nothing nice to say about them.
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2016-10-03 08:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋