I am studying for my Masters and cannot afford the time off from college during the pregnancy. Therefore, if I do not have his baby, then he will not marry me. What can I do?
2007-07-01 02:56:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that it is great that you are going for your master degree and if he cant understand that you need to make a career before you make a baby than he is being inconsiderate. finish school and than plan for a baby! dont let him rush you.... if he honestly loves you he will wait until you are also ready!!! good luck!
2007-07-01 03:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Life....it blows! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well is he marrying you for you or the baby. I'd say your in so close for your masters he should wait cant he have it after, but if you love this guy so much then tell him you will have his baby but he needs to understand its not the time yet and yalls time will come. And if he disagrees dont marry a guy like dat a true husband is suppose to look under of what his g/f or wife wants not what he wants.
2007-07-01 10:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him and get your Masters. Why would you even consider being with a guy like this? A baby isn't a reason to get married, you marry for love, support, companionship and to share your dreams and life with someone. Kids should be the result of a happy marriage, not the cause of one.
2007-07-01 12:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't marry u for love then I wouldn't even bother with him. It is incredibly selfish of him to tell u he'd only marry u if u got pregnant, hence, having to take time off of school!! U obviously must be working hard to get ur Master's degree so don't allow his immature stupidity to interfere with ur goals. U search deep down & think what u want girl!!! And if getting ur Master's & then working afterward's is ur goal, then u have every right in the world to do so without interference from ur boyfriend. If he still refuses to marry u unless u get pregnant, then strongly consider leaving him. If he's going to be this selfish with this, then what else is he going to be selfish with??? Good Luck with ur career!!!>>>ZETA!!!
2007-07-01 12:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by zeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant or having a baby isn't enough reason to get married... and doesn't HOLD relationships together...and the guy sounds shallow and selfish anyways.
Get your schooling and career in order and established, then think about a marriage and THEN a child.
Sounds like buddy wants you to be at home pregnant and reliant one HIM. He needs to jump into 2007!!
Wow... I'd be offended... LOL
Best wishes with everything!
2007-07-01 10:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by ™Tootsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is giving you an ultimatum, then I would advise you to show him the door. Pregnancy is not a good way to start a marraige. Don't have his baby and don't marry this fool. Finnish schooling and find a man with less demands on your part.
2007-07-01 10:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and babies are only for married people. If you have sex with him before your marriage you are committing fornication which is a sin. Stop this. Wait until your wedding night.
You don't have any promises from him, so why would you give yourself freely to some one who is not committed to you in marriage? Or even consider getting PG, you would be making the child a basta*d.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
2007-07-01 10:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your self first, get your education out of the way first, this is the DUMBEST thing I've heard of. Better yourself get your masters done, get a good job and then think about getting married and raising a family.
2007-07-01 10:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You move on. If there has to be a "reason" for him to marry you, you have got the wrong guy. Finish your schooling....get out and experience life....the right one will come along. Someone who wants to spend their life with you because they love you. Start a family with someone who wants to be a family. Good Luck.
2007-07-01 10:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have book smarts, but apparently not common sense.
If the only way this guy would marry you was if you were to get pregnant, why would you want to be with that guy?
And what is to guarantee marriage if you did get pregnant?
Find another guy. Someone stable. Someone not into mind games.
2007-07-01 10:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋