My little sister just lost one of her close friends, she hasnt cried or anything, she just goes to her room all day...everyone in our family has tried talking to her, but we get nothing...she just nods and doesnt talk back about it. My family is worried shes holding it all in and shes going to be worse off. Is 10 too young to fully understand death?
2007-07-01 02:50:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, ten is not too young to understand death. I know, my mother died when I was that age.
Like your sister, I just wanted to be left alone, some people are like that. Give her some time to process and grieve and then approach her.
If she doesn't have this already, I would get her a nice little art book with some cool markers, crayons, or color pencils (The Bratz, etc.) and ask her to draw some pictures, maybe of her and her friend, family, etc. Hopefully, this will help her healing process.
Be blessed.
2007-07-01 03:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by Decent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, one can completely understand DEATH at 10 years.
what she probably doesnt understand is the feelings of loss and empitness that she probably has.
get her to meet more kids, specially the kind that makes other kids laugh (i was that kind :) but im almost 6 years older now D:)
if making her happy doesnt work, i would say that you give her some time to understand what just happened (im not sure if some explanation about it would be good, but telling her that she is in a better place and wherever she is she would be very happy to not see her sad anymore would work a little) and then you try to distract her from it: take her to cool places, to watch movies she likes, to do cool things, etc.
Love and Time are the keys.
and of course, as many already said:
tell her that when she is ready to talk about it you will be there
hope this will be of use to you
Good Luck!
2007-07-01 03:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by alex :] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there to support him as best you can. You don't have to make him your dependent but it would be nice to let him know you care and spend time with him often to let him know that he is not alone and still have people that care for him. Being nice is probably the best gift you can give him right now, so as his little sister be nice. Edit: I think most people would guess that someone dealing with the loss of a friend or loved one may want to be left alone but that is the worst thing to do. The whole "leave me alone" thing is really a cry for help and for whatever reason they don't want to admit it, the best thing is to check up on them and help out whenever you can, showing that you care could save a life and give hope. Edit: sure people need their space but it's times where you'll have to read between the lines and just know that people really need your help even though they may say they don't or won't admit it. If your brother is the quiet or shy type he won't readily share how he feels to begin with.
2016-05-20 01:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little. Are you spiritual? If not you are the wrong one to explain, and help her deal.
Her friends spirit has moved on. She's not just gone, she is just a little ahead. She will be with your sister for the rest of her life. Energy doesn't just disappear. The love they had for each other continue to bind them together. She can talk to her friend and feel sure her friend heard her. You can give her the suggestion of getting into bed, clearing her mind as much as she can, and ask her friend to hold her, she will feel it. I will help so much. Also remind her that where ever her friend went, she will be there when her time comes, and her friend will guide her home. Seem crazy to you or not, it is my belief and if you share it with her, I believe it will help her come back to herself, assured that she has not lost her friend forever. It will never be alright, but it will get better.
hugs to both of you, and Blessed Be
2007-07-01 03:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm soo sorry to hear about this. 10 is a very delicate age to have to deal with the loss of a friend. she may not understand why this happened, and its probally the reason she's holding it in. she'll talk when she's ready, dont pressure her into talking-it could make it worse. just keep telling her how much you love her, and that when she's ready to talk, you're here for her. mabye it would help to get her out of the hosue and go do things with her to get it off her mind for a little while. dont force her to though, she'll come around when she's ready. just be there for her, tell her you love her, and give lots of hugs and kisses. again, i'm very sorry to hear about this, i hope your sister will be ok. my heart goes out to you and your family, and your little sister. take care!
2007-07-01 03:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 12 and still don't understand it. You should probably get a therapist.
One of my teachers had a heart attack in his sleep and quietly died I was a wreck. None of us like him but I was different
Of course he had dumb lessons and I hated every minute of his music class but I had his class the day before he passed.
I went to the school counselor and every thing and I still hurt remembering him but I got over it.
His death is why my parents think lead to my depression I take a pill a day and happy as ever. So talk to your parents about a therapist for your sister
2007-07-01 03:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Young children often understand death better than adults. She is just going through a grieveing process but keep talking to her even if she doesn't seem interested - deep down she will appreciate your love.
2007-07-01 03:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by istaffa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think that 10 is to young to understand what death is, it sounds like y'all want her to be more expressive about how she is feeling and I think she will be more open if you let her come to you....just keep a bug in her ear and let her know that when she is ready to talk you will be there.....but don't let it drag on for to long...maybe give her a journal and tell to write her feeling down when she needs to... it helps a lot to write... she'll be more expressive writing then trying to talk it out and crying at the same time...then you guys can talk bout what she wrote......this is a hard situation and im sorry for you guys loss...take care.
2007-07-01 03:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nicci P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she understands death, she will still grieve. Death is so awful for those who love us. I could be her great, great, great, great, great, great grandaddy and still grieve at the death of a close friend of mine. She will just need time to heal. Be very sympathetic with her, and make her know you understand and love her.
2007-07-01 02:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she is not ot young to know what has happened..we all deal w/death our own way..give her a diary or journal and let her write her feelings down..if she is not already doing that herself..give her some space and be available when she may want to talk..god bless
2007-07-01 02:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋