do i have to divorce my wife because we are not compatible?as what i feel for 11 years being together?

Answer 1

After 30 years of being married I called it quits!!!
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Answer 2

Are there kids involved in your relationship? Has one of you found someone else that you feel it would be more beneficial to spend time with? If the two of you can't resolve matters together, face to face...yes, it is better to get a divorce than to drag each other down to the point of abusive treatment to the other, or without thinking about it, one or both take it out on the kids, if there is any... People do a lot of things without thinking about it.
I for one have went through two marriages. But, then again, have re-married for the third an last time, for when you get married in certain countries, there is no divorce law, no matter what, so since one lives in USA, where getting a divorce seems to be common place... You have only been with each other for 11 yrs, my last was for 22.5 yrs...I stayed till my kid was of legal age, an no longer required child support. Want to discuss this more, email me...or contact me yahoo messenger

Answer 3

I would say anyone that has been together for 11 years is compatible.

Answer 4

Marriage is by and large a joke. Only few people in the world are able to make a QUALITY lifetime monogamous lover's relationship work. And that is because the lover's relationship is paired with a friend/companion's relationship where couple are simultaneously lovers and friends. It's like Powerball. That simply will not happen for the grand majority of people on Planet Earth.

We try to fit these fairy tales told to us from childhood about how we are supposed to go about relationships. We find out living life just how much fairy tales those old stories were and end up confused. Instead of matching up with reality, human beings want to construct reality to match up with their ideas and ideals. That does not work. Gravity will not make things fall up no matter what you do.

Divorce and learn the reality of male-female relationships. Never bet the farm on one person. People are flawed and WILL let you down more than not. Not just let you down but betray you, cheat you, disrespect you in a myriad of ways.

Human beings are evil creatures with small capacity to do good. Our inherent nature is selfishness and using whatever for our own benefit. This only is countered once one human being equates another human being as just as important as himself/herself. Only then will a person treat that other person with proper respect, kindness, and regard. When one person can see himself/herself in another then that person acting out of its self-serving instincts will adopt the other serving him/her as they would do for themselves.

Your relationships may be temporary. This is fine. Nothing is forever. Enjoy the ride while you can. If it shows potential and worth and the other person is just as dedicated to continuing it then stick with that person. One person never makes a relationship by definition of the word. It is a multiple category. It takes more than one to make a relationship work.

Don't become misogynistic because that shuts you off from any potential good women out there. Just find a woman, have some fun, and when it's over it's over. Simple as that.
There are approximately 3.25 billion women on Planet Earth so overpopulation serves the dating game well with so much selection. Open up your standard parameters a little more not being so beholden to one type or few types of women and you'll have more success in finding mates.

All these world record contests married people seem to get caught up in is pointless. Who cares if you stayed together 11 years? Maybe it was 5 years too many. When it's over it's over. There are people breaking apart after 33 years. Who are you trying to impress with these long-term marriage accounts? Do away with that kind of thinking.

A relationship may only last a month, sometimes a year, sometimes 5 years, maybe 13 years, maybe 25 years. But whenever it's over, it's over. Move on to the next selection 'cause you have much more to choose from.

You may worry about moving on thinking your prospects to attract have diminished and this may be true. This is the fear which keeps people in bad relationships. However you might have to enter another mating league. There are people who like older people to date from all ages. You can try to mold your body into apperances that attract other groups and see where that takes you or you can find a similar group of later-in-life singles who may want to find someone.

Marriage is not all it's cracked up to be and I've definitely gotten that impression reading all the stories about the many ways marriages go wrong. If you find a relationship that looks hopeful to make that form of union work then go for it. Marriages can work but most often they don't. Think of it as lotto. You may just win if you play enough but don't set your plans and futures on it because it's a longshot.

You only live maybe about 80 years give or take. And there is no afterlife contrary to popular opinion. Live your life like you only have one left. Because it is the truth.
Half of it's gone already so you better get crackin'.

Good luck, my man. Remember 3.25 billion women on planet earth. You just can't lose with these odds.

John Lucas

Answer 5

simply NO! if your life is not in danger don't entertain such thoughts. your problem is not incompatibility but learning to accept each other's differences and adjust. that's part in every marriage, perhaps you forgot.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but your question doesn't make sense and doesn't give enough detail for people to answer.