we have a couple of kids together and all we do is argue, make up and act as if nothings happened. then the same happens again the next day.
2007-07-01 01:30:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
...the fact that you're asking is a good pointer...if you're unhappy and have tried everything and it still makes you unhappy...get out...some people say to stay for the kids but in my opinion the kids are effected if the parents are unhappy....
2007-07-01 01:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Buttsmear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation at the mo. I have children but not by this partner. We dont argue - we dont talk, do anything together and simply pass each other like ships. Our relationship has been for a long time and we have just got used to eachother but there is no spark, no nothing. I hope it works out for you.
2007-07-02 01:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by kittensbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your case is not yet hopeless. you are just undergoing adjustments. you as a woman should not argue too much with him. u might have a point but you must voice it out in a respectful way. if he shouts maintain a cool head and tell him that he need not do that. when the two of you have cooled down and made up already, tell him you love him and you want the two of you in good terms all the time.
You see, pride will bring you nowhere. There are a lot of broken families/hearts around the world. i know you wouldn't want to add up to the statistics. just imagine what you'll put your kids thru if you separate. respect the matrimony too.
2007-07-01 01:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by beth_dyosa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the question that u should be asking yourself is .... are u together because u actually love each other or is it mainly coz of the kids??? if it is coz of the kids then i would sit down with him and talk calmly and end it so u can stay in a talking relationship for the kids........ it isn't fair on them to hear all the arguing all the time...... or at least have a break from each other for a couple of months and see if that helps.... then u both should know what u want........good luc...xxx
2007-07-01 01:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by it's me!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the feelings start to fade and the spark in the relationship goes. If you keep arguing every day for a long period of time it cant be doing you any good or your children if you have any you need to sit down and discuss this matter seriously and consider splitting if the matter persists
2007-07-01 02:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really one for given relationship advice, but I think you just know yourself when there is no point. If the sex becomes a chore and you both are miserable, sack it off love. Don't bring the kids into though, but I would never stay with the missus just because of the nippers, they'll always be my children regardless
2007-07-01 01:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Manc Lush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some couple therapy ,resolve the issues work hard to stay together ,or accept its over.
I believe you should do as much as possible,to stay together
and only when you have ,should you split.
seems to me there is little comunication going on,you both need to learn how to talk to each other again
2007-07-02 04:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact u r saying is nothing but lack of understanding.....it doesnt mean, every thing is over......u r having little understanding problem.
Dont let it over.....breaking a relationship is very painful specially when u have kids....think, u have kids...the kids r simbol of u both's love...the men or women is father or mother of ur kid.....
some times, there requires some sacrifices in relationship to keep it up...for ensuring a happy married life.....wy dont u start the sacrifice? u r sacrificing for ur partner, ur kids and oviously for u.
avoid those isseues which make u both irritated, if u feel extreem bad, discuss with him or her going to bed at night...holding his throat with hand....tell him or her softly that see ur this attitude hurt me, we can make things like this or that.....
hope it will work...All the best.
2007-07-01 01:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it another 6months and write down separately what niggles you both and if the bad outways the good , Why live in misery , it rubs of on the kids ........Separate for awhile and see if its the space you both need Absent makes the heart grow fonder ,,, or out of sight out of mind Good Luck ,,,,,,
2007-07-01 01:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men don't leave, they just make things so uncomfortable so the woman has to go. it's not their fault then, they don't like to be blamed for anything even if they are to blame. however, try to get him to sit down and you tell him you're so confused that you asked us answerers for help. it's about all you can do. good luck. xxx
2007-07-01 09:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by paywithnaivety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pure and simple.... when you start asking yourself that question.
the same has just happened to me. luckily i didnt have any kids, but i couldnt stand being trapped in emotional warfare every day. get out before it grinds you down. :-)
2007-07-01 02:30:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋