Hi,all,my husband is so loving and sweet,when we are anywhere anyone can tell how much he do loves me,but not on the presence of any of his family,when they are around he is totaly different person he ignores me,and he becomes scared of any tiny winy gesture that might shows that he loves me,or even care for me,for example once I was sick and I was alone at home ,I called him so he paniced and left work and came right away and was scared to death however it wasn't that bad,other time his family was visiting us,and I was also sick he left the room on the morning and sit with them on the reception and didn't come to check even once for a complete 5 hours.
I already confornt him and he admit and appologize but I wasn't seeking for an appology,so I wonder if anyone can tell me what should I do about it.
Thanks inadvance
2007-07-01 00:57:35 · 17 answers · asked by shocking 1 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
well,I'll have to disagree with most of the above answers,I'll try to be more realistic here,Frankly if such a situation happened to me I would not be able to forget it,plus you said "for example" so that's mean that similar situations happens.so I won't go with the opinion of "let it go and think about the good stuff you already have" ,that is not practically useful,I mean you can't live your whole life feeling that its OK to be ignored on the presence of your husband's family as he is good with you in general,that isn't even healthy for your relation with them as of course you won't be happy if any of them is visiting cause that automatically means you will feel uncomfortable whilst,however that doesn't mean you have to blame or argue with your hubby about it!!! I mean apparently your hubby isn't ignoring you on purpose its may be he is just feeling that he is deeply in love with you and afraid to look like a silly teenager in front of his parents or any of his family members,so its ok for him to feel this way however its not ok for him to keep treating you this way,so what you need to do is to help him get over it,you said that he apologize so he admit that he does have a problem so talk to him frequently about why is he acting this way and try to figure it out with him and help him change it and be patient I mean the change wont happen in a night.
May Allah grant you the best.
2007-07-02 05:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Sweetie, my advice is ... don't destroy what appears to be a loving relationship because of this incident... Love, trust & respect are most important in any relationship....
It is evident that he loves you because of his actions in the past....
It is evident he respects you because he had the decency to apologise to you for something that he did not see as a major problem.... afterall, you mentioned that he was sitting in the reception with his family, i take it that the reception is in your home? This being the case, if you had needed him or any member of his family during these 5hours you could have called to them, i am positive that anyone of them would have come to your aid!! They were respecting your privacy!!
I gather because you have posted your question in this section that your husband is Egyptian & possibly a Muslim?...
Trust me Egyptian Muslim or not there are Good & bad husbands all over the world & if this is the only thing that your husband had done to you to upset you than thank your lucky stars!!!!
I have been married for 16 years to an Egyptain Muslim, i have known my husband 22 years & have seen many marriages between Egyptains' Europeans' & Americans who have been treated very badly on a daily basis,(Though more that are treated like Royalty), if this was your problem I would advise you to get away immediately, Clearly, this is not the case so my advice is "Get over it! Marriage is about give & take & most of all show him you love, respect & trust him & his family" !!!
You have many good answers here, a few stand out in my mind(thumbs up guys) i view these as sound advice, 1 from Balsam, who reports, that she is also married to an Egyptian, ... & 1 from Wise Heart an Egyptian man Red Wine & Green-n-6.....Need i say more, other than....
I am positive you will have a long & happy future together ... my Best wishes to you both!!
2007-07-01 21:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take this from an Egyptian man.
The main measure is when both of you are alone. Other attitude you can call him traditional or conservative, but in both cases he apologized. That means he is a respectful person and it was the right thing to tell him that you worried about that mistake when he left you for 5 hours alone without asking. This was a mistake which he may have an excuse for, but the rest is fine. Usually the men who doesn't show much love and passion in front of others are the conservative type who can have a deep feeling for their spouse.
I hope you don't think about his feeling in front of others and forgive him for the mistake that he left you alone while ill.
He loves you and care for you and this is rare now.
Good luck
2007-07-01 01:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Wise Heart 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
So real proper? Getting undesirable service will continuously get us complaining everywhere we flow, yet as quickly as we get sturdy service we take it with none attention.... My Husband is impressive, not in the common techniques of procuring for me plant life, or cooking me nutrition.... This night, he's taking my eleven year previous daughter to be certain the Nuggets recreation only the two one among them... why? because of the fact he's familiar with how a lot my daughter desires him proper now to be her "Dad" and spend it gradual with only her... (he's her Step Dad) Now to me... that's so candy and irreplaceable.
2016-10-03 08:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married my husband after almost 7 years love story , two months after we got married we traveled to India for business , i came back very very sick , i slept for 3 days , if i tell u he didn't come to check on me once u will say ,am a liar but this is what happened, he was very busy working 12 hours a day he didn't even notice that am sick !!! finally my mom passed by and took me to c a doctor .this is marriage BTW.
thanks god ur husband left his work and came to u , nobody is satisfied !! u should know that Egyptian husbands feel weak and shy in front of their families when it comes to show their feelings .
2007-07-01 03:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by RedWiNe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You never really know with these men they are such good actors. I work with three married men and in turn they have all asked me out for the night. Can you trust them? I only have two friends who i know have good egyptian husbands their marriages are official, as for the rest of them with the contracts - NO YOU CANNOT unless you are with them practically 24/7and then i would not blink.
2007-07-02 02:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like his family is the problem. Maybe he thinks they will stop loving him if he doesn't act a certain way? And he knows you will never stop loving him? You should ask his family what their view is on how he acts to you around them. If they don't see a problem...then they ARE the problem. How to fix that...I don't know...perhaps seeking a counselor to help your husband deal with this issue. Because it doesn't seem like you are happy with his contradicting behavior. He needs to know it isn't acceptable to you.
2007-07-01 01:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Trimere 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nobody is perfect. also I would not judge somebody by my expectations. ladies are sensitive, they expect this and that and if their expectations( largely decided by comparing with their fathers or brothers in law) are not met they feel insecure. He does not show his feelings as ladies do. ladies are different from men. Take him as he is. Don't overlook what is good. Compare him with many many others and you will find him much better than them. There are men who show insincere feelings but do what you would feel unacceptable. Don't spoil the general good atmosphere.
2007-07-01 10:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Balsam 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure he loves u .. but some men dosent like to show that in front of their parents! especially their moms! i donno y but moms really do get jealous if they notice that their son is giving his wife more attention than her!!
u made the right thing by tellin hm that,, now he knows that what he's doing bothers you and i think he wont do it again :0 good luck
2007-07-01 15:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by green_n6 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He loves you, hes just shy. Enjoy it and don't worry about the little things. Nobodies perfect.
2007-07-01 01:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋