I may be done now, but 9 times out of ten, the man is severely turned off by this.
Do you suppose it is gender instinct or cultural conditioning?
2007-07-01 00:12:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
"It may be done...." not "I". LOL EDIT
2007-07-01 00:15:32 · update #1
Yes Steve, I am sure. Perhaps it is my location...Los Angeles. These guys (in the majority seem to believe a strong woman is abusive and angry). The group think around here is quite alarming....
2007-07-01 00:33:00 · update #2
I think it depends a lot in the man in this or next generation.
Open minded men don't mind who makes the asking, but old fashioned minds do.
I have heard too many times that men like the "chase". Unfortunately most of these men, once the "chase" is over, they get bored and move to the next "chaseable" (I think this word doesn't exist in English[?]...lol) person
2007-07-01 02:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Flyinghorse 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I found for me it depended on the man's age, combined with their investment in "traditional" gender roles. If I asked a man to do something that was "date-like" and they were 35 and under, it was almost always cool. But, if they were 35 or over, the more likely they were traditionally-minded as far as gender roles goes, so the more likely they thought the man should be "in charge" of dating. I did find some men over 35 who were open minded about gender roles, and those were the ones I dated. But it did take a while (I'm 49). I'm with a man who is 51, and he's very open-minded, lol.
2007-07-02 00:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"9 times out of ten, the man is severely turned off by this."
I must say, I'm not entirely sure I agree with this. You may be misinterpreting. It is possible you are noting a lot of women being turned down.
But let us also consider men asking out women. Men also get turned down. It would be my opinion that it is this that you are noting.
Men WILL turn women down just as women WILL turn men down.
I believe it is already acceptable for a woman to ask out a man.
2007-07-01 10:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Nidav llir 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps. If a guy wants to date you, then he would be silly to be upset about you inviting him out. But maybe you should pay a lot of attention to his reaction. If you don't think guys should get upset about being asked out, you probably don't want to date the guys who do. So, it's useful as a good filtering process. Weed out the culturally rigid and reactionary.
2007-07-04 22:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by treebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Gender equality is happening slowly but surely all over the world.
Definitely cultural conditioning. But the way you ask is important too.
2007-07-01 07:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Genuinely Puzzled 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's cultural.
I wish I could elaborate, but... that's seriously all you need to know. Furthermore, I don't know if guys are really all that turned off by it. Most men I know love it when the woman makes the first move. It takes a lot of pressure off of them.
So go on out there and snag yourself a live one. ;)
2007-07-01 07:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
In the next generation, it will be accpetable for men and women to do anything they want, even with breaking traditional gender codes.
2007-07-03 16:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is acceptable now, happens all the time. Even happens to me once in a blue moon.
2007-07-04 21:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by Smarter than the average bear 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys can be opportunistic by nature. If they know you like them OF COURSE they are going to say, "yes" and run with it, even though they are not really serious about you.
2007-07-01 07:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by mishmallow8 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋