What does Islam teach about marriage?

Question

From this quote, what do you think?

"Dear husbands, your wife is your partner, your other half and your life mate. She can be your hassanah in this world and "the blessing of your life," but only if you give her the chance to be. She is the one who can bring a smile to your face and dry the tears of pain from your eyes. She has the potential to provide your family with iman, happiness, encouragement, and patience in the face of challenges you may face. Your wife is always ready to sacrifice everything in order to bring happiness and success to the family."

http://www.islamonline.net/English/Society/2001/05/article6.shtml

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Islam, unlike other religions is a strong advocate of marriage. There is no place for celibacy like, for example the Roman Catholic priests and nuns. The prophet (pbuh) has said "there is no celibacy in Islam.

Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high "taqwa" / "Iman". The prophet has also said, "Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me".

Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.

It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.

Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.

Answer 3

Muslim mothers and older sisters are always looking for the best girls to marry their sons. They keep eyes on girls from their age like 10 to 13 years. They know every little thing about the girls they are interested. Usually they marry daughtes of their cousins, uncles and aunts. If a girl or a boy does any thing wrong, it is known by all women and even men of families. Usually their chosen girls have very little faults in them. This is how Muslims marry their sons and daughters and their divorce rate is very low compared to western cultures.

Answer 4

Marriage in Islam is a beautiful union between a husband and wife. Where they both strive hard to provide a good life for their family in both this world and the hereafter. To Muslims who truly know and follow Islam, marriage is a wonderful thing... All praise and glory is to Allah (God) who created all that exists.

Answer 5

Mutual love and respect. And I would like to add to your post...

The Messenger of God said, The most perfect of believers in belief is the best of them in character. The best of you are those who are the best to their women.’ The Prophet of Mercy tells us that a husband’s treatment of his wife reflects a Muslim’s good character, which in turn is a reflection of the man’s faith. How can a Muslim husband be good to his wife? He should smile, not hurt her emotionally, remove anything that will harm her, treat her gently, and be patient with her.

Being nice includes good communication. A husband should be willing to open up, and be willing to listen to his wife. Many times a husband wants to air his frustrations (like work). He should not forget to ask her about what annoys her (like when children would not do their homework). A husband should not talk about important things with her when he or his wife is angry, tired, or hungry. Communication, compromise, and consideration are the cornerstone of marriage.

Being nice includes encouraging one’s wife. The most meaningful admiration comes from a sincere heart that notices what really matters — what the wife really values. So a husband should ask himself what she feels most insecure about and discover what she values. That is the wife’s sweet spot of praise. The more the husband compliments it, the more the wife will admire it, the more on target this healthy habit will be. Kind words are like, “I like the way you think,” “You look beautiful in those clothes,” and “I love hearing your voice on the phone.”

Human beings are imperfect. The Messenger of God said, “A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes something in her character, he should be pleased with some other trait of hers.” A man should not hate his wife because if he dislikes something in her, he will find something he likes about her if he gives it a chance. One way to be aware of what he likes in his wife is for the husband to make a list of a half dozen things he appreciates about her. Marriage experts recommend that one be as specific as possible and focus on character traits — just as the Prophet of Islam recommended, not just what she does for the husband. For example, a husband may appreciate the way she arranges his clean laundry, but the underlying character trait may be that she is thoughtful. The husband should consider admirable traits such as being compassionate, generous, kind, devout, creative, elegant, honest, affectionate, energetic, gentle, optimistic, committed, faithful, confident, cheerful, and so on. A husband should give himself some time to construct this list, and review it in times of conflict when he is most likely to feel averse towards his wife. It will help him be more aware of his wife’s good attributes and far more likely to compliment them.

A companion asked the Prophet of God what is the right of a wife over her husband?’ He said, “That you feed her when you eat and clothe her when you clothe yourself and do not strike her face. Do not malign her and do not keep apart from her, except in the house.”

Conflict in marriage is virtually inevitable and it leads to lot of anger. Although anger is one of the most difficult emotions to manage, the first step toward controlling it can be learning how to forgive those who hurt us. In case of conflict, a husband should not stop talking to his wife and emotionally hurt her, but he may stop sleeping in the same bed if it will improve the situation. Under no circumstance, even when he is angry or somehow feels justified, is a husband allowed to malign her by using hurtful words or cause her any injury.

Answer 6

made reallynice reading
also islam was the first relilgion to recognise that sometimes couples arent compatible and divorce is allowed ,althiugh it is highly discouraged but it is permissable.

being a divorced muslim reading the link really gives me hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel and you can find your soulmate and be happy in islam thanks sister

Answer 7

Islam was first religion to give respect to the ladies in all aspects. All old religions were taking ladies into disgrace. Christian were feeling that worman is source of all sins. She has brought us frm heavn to this world. Friend this joking statement will not stop message of Islam which is true.

Answer 8

Allah teaches us that love is a sign of his existence (have a look at 30:21-Koran). (Allaho Akbar) .

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. (Koran-30:21)

Answer 9

That describes my marriage, Alhemdulilah. My husband and I are equals, we love and support each other through everything and we are each other's best friend and soul mates.

Answer 10

it's nice. and Islam teaches about marriage that forced marriages are NEVER ALLOWED