Do you
...stand up to shake someones hand?
...hold doors for people?
...stand up when someone leaves the table?
2007-06-30 23:10:59 · 22 answers · asked by Loomy G 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
dont think so anymore. yesterday a man sat in the bus seat marked for pregnant and elderly he was neither while im 9 months preg and had to stand. i was pushed out of the way in the supermarket by a young woman trying to get to the last of the grapes before me too. its a lost art form im afraid.
2007-06-30 23:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by mummy of 5 girls <3 <3 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I do stand to shake someones had and hold doors open for people. Me being a woman, it's not required for me to stand when someone leaves the table.
Although I grew up in the northern part of the US, I went to high school in the south. I found it quite curious how many more of the time honored traditional manners were upheld there than in my home state.
2007-07-01 10:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by galapagos6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm female but I stand to shake someones hand.
hold doors open for people but I don't stand up when someone leaves the table.
My husband does the top two but doesn't stand when I leave the table. I do have male friends that do though, when we're out having dinner. I suppose it depends on your age. Hope those that still do it, don't change. I love it.
2007-07-01 11:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably do the first two but not necessarily the last (being a woman). I think good manners are about making the other person feel comfortable rather then following a set of rules which may be somewhat out of date. Somebody mentioned greeting with 'high 5' etc & that may be regarded as modern good manners.
I think the worst example of bad manners is mobile phone use. I am sick of being in conversation with somebody & they take a call without even a murmur of apology.
The words 'please', 'thank you' & 'excuse me' don't cost anything to use & can really make a difference to the way people feel about you.
2007-07-02 04:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly the younger generation are unaware of these manners...
to them the way to greet others is a ,the or the
i still stand up to shake someones hand ,open and hold the doors for people ,offer my seat on the bus for the ones needed and say my thank you's and day greetings when i meet people...
it is not all about manners.it is about being a nice person too = )
thank you for asking this question
2007-07-01 06:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by faris j 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do but I didn't realise I did.until I read your question which shows that it is purely a natural reflex instilled in me by my upbringing.Sadly it does not happen anymore.I do not believe we should still be as straight laced as the Victorians,or even later a classic example being The Queen being greeted by her tiny son(Prince Charles) on her return from a long tour overseas,by a formal handshake.However there is a happy medium.As other people have replied good manners is more common in older people.In my experience though there is one fascinating exception.When I go walking around the lake at my local beauty spot nearly everyone young,middle aged or old greets me.Someone explain that anomaly.!
2007-07-01 08:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by chezliz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course people still display manners,it is a reflection of how they were "brought up" and does not depend on age. TV and in particular Soaps have a lot to answer for,good manners are regarded as unfashionable and yet when displayed particularl by the younger generation can be so rewarding. Great question,something to exercise the mind and show that it still matters.
2007-07-01 12:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by orangefield 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to clarify for you, men should only stand up to greet a lady. It is not necessary for a man to stand when greeting a man. It is actually improper. Also, a man should never extend his hand to be shaken to a lady. The lady decides if she will shake your hand or not. A simple head nod and a smile will do, unless she offers her hand. The same goes for standing when someone leaves the table. Only if a woman is leaving the table. To answer your question, I think some people still have manners but, unfortunately, the fad is dimming.
2007-07-01 06:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by internationalman1919 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you know - its manners that will set you apart. i tell my kids this and they have impeccable manners. as someone else said: you should be able to sit with the Queen of England, the President of the US, or a pauper from the slums and know how to behave appropriately. Qualifications may get you through the door, but in order to stay know how to behave!
I also get annoyed if someone leaves the TV on when you visit. Yes, it is their house, but I am the guest (or don't invite me in!).
PS - re: another answerer, it was disgraceful that a pregnant lady was made to stand on the bus (or was it a train?). This is disgusting behaviour - commiserations to you.
2007-07-01 06:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
teaching children to have good manner can give them a social edge. manners can oil wheels of communication and can set up respectful signals and be the expression of dignity.
some manners are deemed sexist i.e. holding the door and standing for women, but some are universal, respectful and kind.
2007-07-01 07:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like manners are quickly becoming a thing of the past. In fact I've come across some people who seem to think being mannerly is weak or wimpy. I still hold doors for women and some of them are surprised when I do it.
Still, I have had a couple of women say, "I can do it myself!".
Bloody feminists.
2007-07-01 10:03:03 · answer #11 · answered by Mr.Longrove 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋