seduce ex stepmother?

Question

when I was younger and she first married my father we were close and we almost had relations.

after she had 2 children by my father, she become overly cold and eventually our relationship (which was non existant now) disappeared altogether.

she and my father have been divorced for 5 years now, and i think about her and would now like to maybe restart a physical relationship.

she is about 40, i am about 28. how do i go about doing this? and is this very wrong ? since she is no longer married to my father...

Add: Before she had children with my father we had a slight physical relationship. It was strange. Some days it was on, some days she ignored me.

I think we're both f'd in the head.

Answer 1

restart a physical relationship? I think you forgot to tell us something

Answer 2

At 40, and with a broken marriage with children - sounds like the woman has baggage, and alot of it. you are treading on very dangerous ground, you have siblings from her, they will not stay little for long, and things will not look good from their perspective if you should continue with this. move on from here, she should never have allowed the on again off again thing to go on between you two - and the guilt she must have been carrying all these years, how do you think that would have come out? you both have too much baggage to be able to get through a meaningful relationship with each other, maybe all you feel is a physical attraction which was never fully expressed, and if that is the case, then you can get over it - dont let this kind of sex upset the balance of the rest of your life, there are too many beautiful, intelligent ladies out there for you to go make a Kamakazy attempt at happiness? let her go, get her out of your head - and find that special someone who is out there somewhere...good luck whatever you decide to do

Answer 3

You need to go to counseling as soon as possible. By what you have written it may be the case that you have been sexually molested as a kid by this woman. This is not as unusual as you may think. Please go get the help you need. You are a victim here. You will never have a normal relationship if you don't deal with this issue. Luckily you are only 28 and are starting to deal with this now and not later in life. Some people have ruined others' lives because of undealt with sexual molestation issues. This is coming to the surface now because on some level you are ready to deal with it. Be brave and get the help you need.

Answer 4

This would be a bad move from a family point of view. You were her step son for several years and you have two step brothers that are her sons. It would be an embarrassment to everyone concerned. Find someone else.

Answer 5

duuude, first of all thats gross.
secondd, she was YOUR father's ex-wife.
like hes YOUR father!
that would be screwed up if you did that to a bestfriend,
and now youre trying to go after YOUR father's ex-wife.
thats wrong in so many ways, because not just the age difference, but ur betraying FAMILY.

Answer 6

Have you talked to your dad about it? I don't know your relationship but I'm sure he weighs your opinion in any relationship he has or is thinking of having.

Answer 7

what r u, nuts? u r 28 and your chasing a woman who had kids with your father? U need ur ass whooped just for fixing your mouth to ask that question! Gotta be from W. VA!

DUMB ASS!! GET A LIFE!!

Answer 8

best to leave this as a memory, do you not want a relationship with your father and siblings?

Answer 9

I second your last comment.
A 28 yr old with a 40yr old?
get a life.

Answer 10

Wow, this is almost Oedipedal in nature. Read Oedipus Rex, and as an adult you have the right to pursue whomever you find interesting, with respect to other people's wishes. Just give her a call and ask for a date.