whats it like being married to a national guardsman?

Question

my fiance enlisted for the national guard and im wondering what will be like being the wife of a national guardsman and what sorts of things i may be required because of it

Answer 1

You get both worlds - the life of a military member and the life of a civilian. After 3 month basic and then AIT - then you are settled with the once a month training - it is just like he is going out with his buddies for camping/hunting - you have the house for the weekend. The guard is very family oriented so there are family events that you can attend. When he is active - either training active or deployed you have access to all military benifits (not during the 2 week / year training). Go ahead and get power of attorney as soon as you get married - talk about finances and funeral arrangements now - then you don't ever have to revisit that subject - have lists of things that need to be done in all situations that arrise - you can't think clearly when they do come up - both the good and the bad. Expect him to be deployed - it will happen - there will be a lot of $ coming your way - boneses and extra monthly $ - put it away - you will need it later - respect his CO's and those that out rank him - you don't have to salute, but you still should respect them. Attend functions in proper attire - not revealing. Stand on your own two feet and be independant when he is gone. Support him in all that he does - ie letters, attend basic grad etc. don't bother him with things that you can handle and don't let him worry about you. You will be fine. Don't worry about the possibility of him no coming home from a deployment - yes there is a chance, but it is about the same chance as him having a fatal car crash on the highway. This experience can go either way for you - good or bad - it is what you make of it - you can make it a great experience for the both of you - remember that the military doesn't recognize you until you are married benifit wise.

Answer 2

When you marry a soldier, you also marry the military. My boyfriend is a National Guardsmen and even though we're not married, when he has drills and when he had BCT, it was hard being away from him. You also have to accept the fact that he could be sent to war if his unit is needed. My father was a Guardsmen's husband and when my mom was gone so much, he had a hard time, but after a while he got use to it and continued like. If you love the man and are willing to do anything for him i.e travel and move to different bases if necessary and supporting him for anything, both civilian and military, then you'll be fine. Look at the bright side, you get to see him in his ACU's and those sexy dress uniforms. :-)

Answer 3

Be very proud of him and supportive. Guard camps are a necessary part of every year but you can use the time to do activities you like to fill the time and the home comings are wonderful. Be prepared to be on your own in times of national disasters when he may be called into action and pray that he won't have to go to war as so many Guardsmen have since those were sent to Vietnam and every war since. The pay is good and so are the benefits. Good Luck to you.

Answer 4

Sacrifice, excitement and adventure are attached to your relationship when married to a National Guard.

Answer 5

It's like being married to anyone else. Except once a month he is going to be a weekend warrior. Unlike soft civilians he might be called to go to war.

Answer 6

Iraq,here he comes! :)