Alright I have a friend who I care for A LOT, I mean I have always wanted to date her. She just got out of a bad relationship and she doesnt trust any guys now and anything I say to her that is nice she says is not true. The reason she doesnt trust any other guys is because her last bf told her one thing but he was the opposite she told him. Now I am someone who is the nice guy, who wants to help everyone, always caring and will always be by their side. She doesnt realize how much I care for her, right now I am trying to make her realize that not all guys are like him. Am I doing what is right?
2007-06-30 18:21:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No relationship to me should ever be started without a friendship. I believe that she needs time to heal from her last realtionship and if you are a good friend then you will be there for her when she needs someone to talk to.
From my personal experiences I know that I would get out of a terrible relationship and jump right into another one that would be just as unhealthy as the last. I didn't allow myself time to get healthy so I attracted unhealthy men into my life, rebounds is how I refer to this and I don't believe that it's healthy for anyone to be in a rebound realtionship.
Patience and lots of love and kind words and sometimes, I would strongly suggest, just listen and she will find her own answers within herself.
So in you asking right or wrong to be doing as you are.....well it's ok to me to be flattered sometimes but to much of it seems unrealistic if you get my drift.
2007-06-30 18:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by darlin0043 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think so. I think if you are trying to be her friend that is one thing because a friend would understand why she dosent trust guys right now in her life. Instead you like her in another way therefore I think you should be honest with her and tell her how you really feel and that you know that she has been through a lot, etc. etc. and that you would treat her better and why, etc. etc., just make sure it comes from the heart and is sincere..
2007-07-01 01:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by jusbnhonest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to give her time . Healing from a break-up is not easy. It's hard trying to start to date again after. So if you're truly a friend to her like you say give her some space and wait she will come around when she sees that you are there . Respect all her decisions and hope for the best.
2007-07-01 01:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lina C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing but you're doing it the wrong way. You don't have to convince her of anything; she'll recognize decency in due time...right now she just needs time to heal, and that may involve venting from time to time (don't take that personally). If you stick to your agenda of trying to "make her see that all men aren't untrustworthy" she'll feel the pressure and seize upon the fact that you just want what you want. But if you can let her take the time necessary to work through her pains, she'll come to realize that you have been truly compassionate to her the whole time without you ever having to spell that out for her. You may find that more to your liking. Good luck.
2007-07-01 01:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give her some time to get over the jerk. Be there as her friend, be supportive, get her out of the house on outings- not dates. Group activities, silly stuff like roller skating or bowling. It will take some time, but eventually she will see what a great guy you are! Be patient and hang in there!
2007-07-01 01:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to comfort her yeah but dont really talk about other guys for now cuz if i were her itd seem like you were defending her ex bf [not totaly sure why lol it just does] but just be a friend right now
2007-07-01 01:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by thejunglefaerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a fine line, between friendship and more. If you cross that realize there is no going back. Watch that line, respect it.
2007-07-01 01:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful about being too nice- because women fall in love with the "Bastard" side of our personalities.
2007-07-01 01:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by baron d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you are. but don't push to much. give her time to heal. then one day at a time. good luck
2007-07-01 01:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her chill a while and b there for her, adn then tell her u like her
2007-07-01 01:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by cottoncandy55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋