My good friend asked 3 girls to be bridesmaids. Myself, her other best friend, and her sister. She picked out the dresses (cute sundresses that we can wear again that were $110) which i thought were very reasonable priced to be bridesmaids dresses and super cute so we can wear them again. Now the other bridesmaid has decided "she doesnt need another bill" and "she wont spend that much on a dress she may not like" and "cant you pick a cheaper dress". I think this is horrible rude. She should NEVER have agreed if she didnt want to spend the money. this is also all we are being asked to buy!!! we can wear any shoes/hair do/anything. ive told my friend to forget the other girl and pick someone else. what do you think?
2007-06-30 17:31:21 · 16 answers · asked by MissLoriSunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She shouldn't let someone else decide what she is having for HER wedding. If this girl doesn't want to spend the money, and the bride isn't willing to pick up the bill, she should tell her that this is the dress we're having, and if you don't want to buy it, you have the option of stepping down. Let this girl be the one to back out, the bride shouldn't have to "fire" her. That way if the bride won't buy the dress for her than she sucks it up and buys the dress, or steps down. Wish your friend the best, these situations are always hard.
2007-06-30 17:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When someone agrees to be a bridesmaid, they know that there is a financial obligation that goes along with the honor. It isn't up to her to decide on the dress, it's up to the bride. It was really nice of the bride-to-be to pick out a dress that is not only a reasonable price (dresses can range really high these days) but it's also something that can be worn again.
She should look and see if there is a payment plan to get the dress if she's worried about the bill. A lot of places either offer a 6 months same as cash credit card, or some other type of financing. If she decides now that she doesn't want to deal with the financial obligation, then yes, I think the bride should look for someone new. If she's making a stink about this now, imagine what might happen down the road.
2007-06-30 17:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kavasa 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If the bride consulted with the girl on what she could afford before picking the dress and stayed within that range then the girl is at fault.
If the bride did not consult with her about what she can afford then the bride is at fault. I don't (and never will) agree that accepting a position in a wedding party means that you should happily spend untold amounts of money you can't afford. $110 dollars, especially for a sundress, is alot for some people. As for how cute it is, thats irrelevant. What's cute to you might be ugly to someone else. Besides that some women just don't wear dresses in general so no matter what it looks like it wouldn't be reused.
2007-07-01 06:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this bridesmaid doesn't want to pay for her dress than she doesn't need to...nor should she be in the wedding. When you make the choice to become a bridesmaid, you take on whatever that entails. It seems unreasonable to have this special role in a bride's day and not expect to spend money. If she doesn't want to spend the money on the dress, then she should be there for the bride as a guest and not expect the bride to change her ideas about the dress style.
2007-07-01 05:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by trpaz2979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This bridesmaid sounds like she is gonna be a problem for you. If she is aready complaining about her dress, then she's certainly going to start whining about the bachelorette party and any showers you might have for the bride. She won't want to pitch in at all.
Now, if the bride wants to deal with this the dress issue by paying for it, then that is up to her as long as she doesn't rub it in the other maids' faces.
I would team up with the sister as much as possible. Leave this cheapo bridesmaid out of the loop, so that you ensure that the bride has a nice bachelorette and shower.
It would be nice if the bride fired her as a bridemaid, but you have to expect the worst.
2007-07-01 04:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by dice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of this depends on how close to the wedding it is, and if the other two bridesmaids have already bought their dresses. the bride is being MORE than reasonable, but sometimes things can cost more than a person expected. if it's close to the date and everyone else has their stuff, this bridesmaid needs to either suck it up, ask the bride for help paying, or tell the bride she can not be in the wedding.
2007-06-30 19:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Erica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you. When you agree to be a bridesmaid there is always some cost involved. She should gracefully decline to be a bridesmaid without the whining! If it is really important to the bride to have this woman be a part of the wedding party she can offer to pay for part of the dress. But there are still bridal showers, gifts and a bachelorette party that will cost her some money. Maybe you could talk to her?
2007-06-30 17:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
$110 is really not that much. my girls had $99 (david bridal sales rock) and i said wear white shoes and have your hair however you want it. your bride is being very reasonable and believe me, it will get worse with this bridesmaid. she will then not want to help throw a bridal shower or help with any other party you want to throw.
if i were you, i would tell your bride before it gets worse and she can not pick someone else in the wedding. because unhappiness will show in the wedding pictures, something you can NEVER get back. people need to be positive in weddings and as her friend, you need to tell her if someone is putting that in jeopardy.
and someone said the bride should pay for the dress....even if that MADE sense, there are other expenses and she will probably complain about that too. she needs to cut her loses now.
2007-06-30 17:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think $110 is very reasonable for a bridesmaid dress. I was married 14 years ago and my bridesmaid gowns cost $135. Maybe the girl is really broke and was excited to be in the wedding until she realized how much it was going to cost.
2007-06-30 17:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think that is so cheap for a bridesmaid dress..
she is being rude and if she is going to complain about it, the bride should tell her that she can't be in it... anyway weddings come with enough stress without this type of illy drama
the bridesmaid dress is the brides choice, it is the brides day, and for the rest of the brides life she will have framed pics and albums full of HER wedding photos..
anyway, she is the brides MAID.. she is supposed to help, support and help with the brides requests..
2007-06-30 18:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋