It was brought to my attention that wedding gifts are not required when you attend a wedding, but yet so many people buy them and become resentful when those few people don't buy them. Personally, since it is so expensive to have people come to your wedding, I would feel very uncomfortable not bringing a gift.
2007-06-30 17:13:10 · 19 answers · asked by kelly m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Although it is not required to bring a gift, good etiquette makes it thoughtful to. These people are inviting you to the most special day of their lives, so bringing a gift is something you should want to do anyway. It doesn't have to be anything expensive, just a token of thanks for thinking of you and to wish them the best of luck in their lives together.
2007-07-01 05:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by trpaz2979 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand how anyone believes a wedding gift is an option. It's so rude not to bring one. A wedding is the equivalent to any other party. Just as if someone invited you to their home, you would bring a small gift. Maybe a plant, a candle or a bottle of wine. It's the polite thing to do.The same thing w/ a birthday. Would you show up without a gift. No, that extremely rude.
So, why is a wedding any different. I know people say it's b/c you should not give if you can't afford. That's a load of crap. I'm sorry, I was always taught to bring a gift; even if you can not afford it. The host or hostess went above and beyond to invite you to their event. They are spending time and money on you. Therefore, a gift is always in order.
As for bring the gift to the actual wedding. Technically, you are suppose to send the wedding gift before the wedding. However, where I'm from, must people give cards w/ cash or check. In that case, they bring them to the reception. But, cards are much more discreet then large wrapped gifts.
2007-07-01 01:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is appropriate to bring a gift to the wedding reception. Today many people buy a wedding card and put money inside. The couple will have a container for the cards on her gift table at the reception.
2007-07-01 08:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although they are not required, as you said, I think people should always bring a gift (even a small one) to any type of wedding. If you feel uncomfortable bringing a big huge box, you can just bring a card with a gift certificate or check in it.
2007-07-01 04:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you attended the wedding shower & brought a gift to that, then I wouldn't bring a gift to the wedding. If not, and you would like to bring a gift, I would look for their wedding registry & get something from it or even just a gift card to a nice store like Bed, Bath & Beyond, Linens'N'Things, Target. Just do what you feel is right.
Have fun and enjoy time with friends.
2007-07-01 04:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by fijianorphan 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A wedding is a celebration and gifts are a traditional way of celebrating the newly weds decision to set up housekeeping as well as welcome them into your "family". If you are happy for them check their registry and buy a gift - in some very formal cases the gift is shipped to the Brides family home for retrieval after the honeymoon (this prevents fears of theft or misplaced gift cards). It is a good practice to slip a small card inside the gift in the event to top card is separated - so the happy couple knows who to thank. In very rare cases (such as 2nd weddings) couples request that no one bring a gift in this case - if you really want to give a gift - make a donation in their name to a charity you know they favor and send them notice in a congratulatory card. Hope this helped!
2007-07-01 00:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always give a monetary gift at a wedding. Where I am from this is pretty standard. People generally try to give what the dinner approximately costs and maybe a little more. Weddings are super expensive in my area though. Give what you are comfortable giving.
2007-07-01 01:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with wedding gifts it is more traditional to send the gifts a few weeks before the wedding this makes it easier on the bride and groom. even with a fancy wedding you can do a simpler gift like a photo album, you could also make a more personal gift like a small scrap book of picture you have with them. good luck.
2007-07-01 00:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure who in the world would tell you you aren't "required" to bring a wedding gift. Ummm No. No one stands at the door and says, "What gift did you bring? Well, if you didn't bring one, tough, you can't come in." On the other hand, it's about as rude as burping in your pastor's face if you don't bring one. It's right up there on the list of rude things you can do in your life.
2007-07-01 02:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the reason why people bring wedding gifts is just tradition.
About 30years ago and still going now people always bought household items as a sign as new life new home, so they would buy new gifts to be used in the home such as cofee makers, plate sets, knives and forks picture frames etc.
just go along that route and buy them nice set of candle sticks or something. thought that counts
2007-07-04 09:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋