Hello all,
I have a question that has been bugging me. There is this person I know that I work with, we have known each other for a few years. We get along great and really counted on each other for teamwork and getting the work done. Now here is the situation. I was invited to his bachelor party along with other people from work, and we had a good time.
But apparently he has sent out all his invitations to his upcoming wedding, and I did not get an invite. Maybe that's a normal situation, but here's the deal. He has sent out invites to other people in my work area, many of them aren't even on the same schedule or department as he is, and they haven't worked him as closely as I have.
Maybe I'm a bit too sensitive, but I do feel a bit insulted at this. I'm good enough to spend money to his bachelor party but not good enough to attend his wedding? What do you all think, and has anything similar happened to you?
2007-06-30 15:08:06 · 10 answers · asked by looozaur 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Note: second paragraph explains the "close" issue. He has sent out invites to other people in the company that haven't interacted with him as closely as I have. They aren't any closer to him than I am, in many respects they are even less close.
2007-06-30 15:13:38 · update #1
You're right, it's odd. However, look on the bright side - you don't have to buy a wedding gift or sit through a long ceremony.
Before I was married, I got offended once or twice when I wasn't invited to weddings I "should have" been invited to. After planning my own wedding and crying over trying to cut down the guest list and eliminating either "Great Aunt Mary" or a friend from elementary school, I realized that figuring out who to invite when you're on a budget TOTALLY SUCKS! I've since made it a policy to NEVER be offended about not being invited to a wedding. For every minute you've spent feeling hurt, the groom has probably spent 10 minutes feeling horrible that he couldn't invite you.
2007-06-30 15:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very odd. I wonder if something happened to your invitation. It seems that he would have inviited you. Many times the bride's family sends out the invitations. Things get very hectic and people do get missed accidentally.
If you like the guy, go to his bachelor party and have a great time. Tell him that you hope he has a wonderful wedding and congratulate him. There is a good chance that he will say, "aren't you coming?" and you can let him know that you did not receive an invitation.
You are not too sensitive. I would feel the same way.
2007-06-30 15:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of curious if these other people he invited are people that are above him in rank at the company.
It is a possibility that you were overlooked or your invitation was lost. Maybe you can approach him in person and without mentioning the invitation tell him you hope that he and his bride have a wonderful wedding. If he says, well aren't you coming? Then I would bring up not getting an invitation.
2007-06-30 16:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well by what I read I would say there is something wrong. Maybe you can find a way to see if you have not had a lost invite. It seems pretty rude that you would be invited to one and not the other especially when he is inviting other people who he is not as close with. I too would feel insulted. So, my advice is find out if it is a mistake or if he is just being rude.
2007-06-30 15:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does sound a little weird to me. I think you should try to find out why without being too obvious. Ask detailed questions about the wedding and hopefully you'll get the facts. Make it sound like you're interested in the wedding. Try asking questions like, "How's the wedding coming along?", and "What do you have left to do?", and, of course, "How many people are there going to be there?".
2007-07-01 07:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...
First off, who organized the bachelor party?
Did the organizer know that you were or were not invited to the wedding?
Did you ask the groom why you weren't invited but others at work were?
Its ok to be hurt, but I wouldn't sweat it.
Heck, maybe yours got lost in the mail.
2007-07-01 02:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, this is not normal. i would not go to a bridal shower if i was not invited to the wedding. so it should be no different for a guy who is invite to a bachelor party, but not the wedding. this is very odd behavior and it makes me think the bride is in charge of invitations for the wedding and he is inviting his pals to a party and does not know you were overlooked. i would bring it up to him, this is too odd.
2007-06-30 18:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being to insensitive. I would be up front and say, hey I really thought we were good friends and I was just wondering did I do something to you as to why I was not invited to your wedding? Maybe you did something and you are not aware of it.
2007-06-30 15:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by SINGLEMOM4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps it was overlooked or over the course of years of working together did U ever state that wedding's where a drag??? If no just ask why you haven't received your invite yet...
2007-06-30 15:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, this is normal. Are you close to the guy? Maybe he is having a small and private wedding with only very close friends and family.
2007-06-30 15:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 6⤋