I dont understand.?

Question

For the past 4 guys I have gone out with, I've gotten confused whether I liked them or not and theyve all ended in a similar matter. With the first guy, I broke up with him after noticing I was acting REALLY different towards him [[bad different]], and we went thru all of this drama after getting back together and he'd always hurt me with his ex-gfs. i'd be sad when he'd leave me. i would try and win him back. I would get cringing feelings about him sometimes. The second guy i just started to wonder whether i did or not, it wasnt that big of a deal, it only lasted like two weeks. The third guy, I felt the bad cringing feelings too. when id break up with him, i'd cry, then we'd get back and i'd feel untrue to myself. i finally broke it off completely but i get SUPER mad and jealous about other girls. and whn i saw him, i got happy and attached. Now, Im dating this other guy right now and i'd get nervous when i'd see him [[before we started going out]] and the whole time i felt like i

knew that i didnt like him. its strange tho, because i would always want him to notice me and when i told my friend that he only liked me as a friend and she agreed, i got REALLY hurt to the point where i kindaa cried a little. now that we are going out, i get these bad cringe feelings and sometimes, i'd be so happy with him, just holding his hand and laughing, then i'd remember if i liked him or not. and its like.... i dont. which makes no sense!! why is this happening to me? getting all of these cringe feelings?? i get them alot with the fourth guy but when i would see him, it'd go away. i'd be happy, then when i got home, and decided to put up a picture of him on my myspace, that bad feeling would come again, so i wouldnt. whats wrong with me?! am i just not finding the right guy?? then how can i get SO hurt, jealous, then be happy with the first, second, and fourth guy, etc. it just makes no sense.

Answer 1

you need to find yourself. Learn to move along your own path. IOW - get over them.

Answer 2

You don't like the guys you just like having a guy. Your happy cuz you got one but you feel bad because you know deep down you really don't like them and eventually you'll end up hurting them. You need to stop validating yourself with boyfriends. Step back and discover yourself as a woman, who you really are and what you want to do with your self, when the time is right true live will come to you, and you'll know the real thing when it does, their is no words to describe it! I'm not saying you can't go out on dates and such but let the guy know your not interested in anything serious and that right now all you want to be is friends, then have fun and just get to know each other without worrying about all that relationship stuff.

Answer 3

I think you should throw out everything that is going to remained of them because you will get worse each time you take out a picture or something and really try to move on and get in love with someone else , you cant show the third guy that you are weak and you still have those feelings Thor's him because he will not care ,show him that you have moved on with someone else and that yo are happy.I know that you will always remember him and have some kinda felling for him but you need to fight your self from felling that.That is the best thing to do :)
good luck