he said something so disrespectful he not only disrespected himself and my fiance, but my family as well. Should I personally take him an invation and tell him that as much as I would like him to be there, if he plans on being disrespectful in any way at the wedding I prefer he not go?
2007-06-30 12:37:44 · 10 answers · asked by JESS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont think that would be unreasonable at all. It is your wedding, a day for you to be happy. The fact that you would give him an invitation shows you are the bigger person. But making it clear that you dont want him there if he is going to be disrespectful shows you will not tolerate him ruining/hurting you on YOUR day. i wish you luck and hope that he doesnt show up and still be disrespectful.
2007-06-30 12:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think if u are going to consider inviting him then talk to him and let him know u didnt appreciate what he said or did but you will give him the benefit of the doubt. if he has any intentions of being disrespectful again than he should rip up the invite and not waste anyones time. he needs to be put in his place before hand so theres no loose cannons on ur special day.
2007-06-30 14:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him get in the way. Show your fiance that he is more important than your rude uncle. He will only bring you down.
If he cares about you, that will show you how much he is hurting you as well. He will try to change. If not, he doesn't care much about you.
It is your decision. I think not inviting him would be best for both him and you.
God bless and have a great marriage!
2007-06-30 13:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously bent out of shape about something that happened a year ago? How bad could it possibly be? If you are still that ticked off after a year has gone by, why are you inviting him at all? Have either your mom or your dad whoever is his sibling talk to him.
2007-06-30 14:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it would create a big old family scuffle by not inviting him please do exactly what you said. If people would be relieved if he wasn't there just bite the bullet and don't invite him at all. I know it's stressful to even consider this but I'd talk to my parents and see what they thought about the situation and go from there.
2007-06-30 13:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why invite him at all? If he's always rude and disrespectful to you, your fiance and your family, he shouldn't be there for your special day. Just don't invite him at all, and if he asks you why he wasn't invited, tell him it's because he's a rude, inconsiderate jerk.
2007-06-30 12:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself the grief.......do not extend him an invitation, in any way, shape, or form. Every family has a "black sheep." If he asks why he wasn't invited, tell him the truth. Wishing your fiance & you, a beautiful day & marriage. :)
2007-06-30 13:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If what he did/said was really bad, then I probably would not invite him. It's just not worth the worry and potential drama.
2007-06-30 14:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is exactly what you should say...be strong. And if offended your future spouce you need to stand by them. your not bein rude but it is your day.
2007-06-30 12:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Maria S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think i'd invite him at all. you could try your idea but he'll no doubt get defensive about it and decide not to come anyway.
2007-06-30 12:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋