A much younger women, has shown very strong interests in me. We talk and talk and talk. She is my neighbors daugther. They just moved to town about a year ago. There is no fence between the properties and when she sees me outside she comes over and we talk forever. She thinks I'm cool, cause I act mature and make her laugh. At first I didn't really think a whole lot of it. But now she is making it very clear, that she wants a relationship. I feel awkward about it. She is attractive and nice. But so young. I feel bad about it. She's just so young. I wouldn't imagine anything long lasting would come out of it. I don't know it's really confusing. Most of the ladies I have dated have been slightly older than me or same age as me. Should I date her? She lives with her mom, and her dad is over 700 miles away. Her mother sees us talking all the time and she comes over to hang out sometimes, so does her step dad. They all seem to be ok with it.
2007-06-30 12:22:01 · 21 answers · asked by laid back brainstormer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think its a good idea if you are looking for a serious relationship because she probly isnt ready for that kind of thing.but if you are looking for some fun i guess its fine.
2007-06-30 12:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.... Personally for that age difference I think 19 is too young. If she were older and had more life experiences I would say 13 years difference is ok. I actually have a friend who is about to marry a man who is 16 years older than her. She is the same age as me and I think she is insane. She is going to be a step grandma before she is a mother, because he is already a grandfather. Everyone is hoping that she calls off the wedding. We all try to be understanding but have made her fully aware that we all feel she is making a mistake. It isn't entirely the age difference that bothers us, but it is a big part of it. What is weird is that her fiance is much like her dad - we all believe that she just found a way to marry her father. So I would say that a girl that young who is interested in a man so much older, may have father issues and may be really looking for a different kind of love. I hope this makes sense.
2007-06-30 19:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't like the 19 years of age here. The reason is she still is a young girl and may just be reallying on first impressions or a way to get out of the home she lives in.
2007-06-30 19:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by DR. Care 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y NOT? She is over 18 which stamps it legal. So what if all the other girls U have dated were older bcuz they didn't work 4 U, this one might. Don't cheat yourself out of a possibly great relationship. Remember, age ain't nothing but a number.
2007-06-30 19:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by RealTruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well legally everything is fine...
She "might" have a thing for older men because her dad is so far away...
That being said, I know a woman who married a man at about 19 and he was just over 30 like you. They are still married, he is about 86 and she is ovr 70.... So it can work out.
But if you are uncomfortable with the situation... you need to tell her..
2007-06-30 19:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you could date her and everything would be alright, but what if you guys date, don't like it, and you feel awkward everytime you walk out your door and have to see that person (and their family). Just something to think about. Also she is not as mature as you, and at that age it's hard to be committed. It depends on what you really want out of a relationship.
2007-06-30 19:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Marie Jane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if there's something there, then there's nothing wrong with exploring it.
My great-grandparents were 12 years different. I knew someone else who married a girl that was 9 years younger that him.
Love doesn't really care about age. It's relationships that matter. You're both adults, so go for it.
2007-06-30 19:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they might be ok with you guys being friends but how are they going to be when shes alone with you in your house?she is young so i doubt it will last how are you all going to get along when you break up?do you really want to live next door to people whos daughter youve dated,slept with,then dumped or got dumped by her? she is 19 she should be moving out before long so id just chill stay friends until she gets a place of her own then try it if your both still interested
2007-06-30 19:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by wvgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world can a 32 year old man have in common with a 19 year old child?
2007-06-30 19:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by Aunt Doobie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two want to try a relationship i think that you should no matter what people say im 20 and my sons father is 35 i think that there is nothing wrong with it as long as the both of you are ok with it and enjoy eachother hope this helps and good luck
2007-06-30 19:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. You've already admitted that you don't want her long term. That means you want to use her and she will fall in love and become hurt and jaded towards men. She's already been rejected by her dad. Don't be the next. Find a woman your own age.
2007-06-30 19:26:32 · answer #11 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋