She said she wanted a 2nd baby shower so her and her friends could drink alcohol because i didnt want to be at a baby shower that had alcohol.........should i say something to her about how i feel? its not like she's the one who's pregnant.
2007-06-30 11:56:35 · 14 answers · asked by missdarkstar 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i have a problem with the alcohol because i wanted to invite people from my church as well as the pastor's wife....all of us who don't drink
2007-06-30 14:30:21 · update #1
not really worried too much about baby gifts
2007-06-30 14:30:58 · update #2
my hubby already planned a baby shower but we said its okay not to have alcohol.....she usually drinks vodka
2007-06-30 14:32:58 · update #3
I have NEVER been to a baby shower with liquor. This is YOUR shower, right? Your baby too! Tell her if there is liquor, you are not coming.
Now is the time for 'my house, my baby' rules. No drinking around baby, no smoking in house with baby, no cursing or whatever.
Get your husband on board with this - that's his job, now, too!
2007-06-30 14:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idea of having alcohol at a baby shower seems somewhat inappropriate seeing that the mother-to-be is not allowed to drink. I have actually never been to a shower w/ liquor and I totally find your reasons to not have liquor justifiable. I would politely decline her offer to throw a second shower and make sure that your shower is held at a place that does not allow alcohol, such as the fellowship hall of a church. Why do people need alcohol to have a good time?
2007-07-01 01:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has a problem. If she and her friends (if her friends are invited to your shower) can't do without alcohol for a few hours then something is wrong.
She could be doing an 'ownership' thing. Gosh I can remember when I couldn't even boil water in a kettle or peel a potato correctly. I always got told how she would do it.
Talk it over with your husband or Father-in-law, they'll most likely know how to have what you want and keep the Mother-in-law happy as well. I hate to suggest they get caught in the middle, but they know her best.
I'm sure you'll get lots of advice - family politics can be so tricky. All the best for the rest of your pregnancy and the new baby.
2007-06-30 19:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by vivi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It won't exactly be a baby shower if the momma to be isn't there, right? It just gives her a chance to party, but tell her don't try to make people bring gifts or think this was in any way your idea, because it would seem tacky to accept gifts from people who are her friends and not yours at a party that you are not even attending.
Yes, you should say something to her about how you feel. Bottled up emotions can explode if left unattended.
2007-06-30 20:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by spunion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby is expensive in all aspects of the word. She is hosting the party for you which means that she is running the show. It is, however, up to you whether or not you want to attend this shower. Do you have a problem with alcohol have you ever drank or when your not pregnant do you indulge on occasion? If you said yes to any of those questions then ask your self this "What will it hurt if they enjoy a margarita in celebration of her new grand baby?" Like you said you are the only one pregnant. Just enjoy all the attention you are getting and let them enjoy it too....It will all work out and I bet you end up having a good time yourself
2007-06-30 20:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by nodixiechic2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep the peace....let her do it. Why would you have a problem with this?? Becoming a grandmother is a big deal for a woman. No matter which grandchild it is, the 1st or the 6th it doesn't matter, the grandchild is VERY important to most grandparents. Involve her as much as you can so she can feel the bond with her future grandbaby. She wants to be a part of this with you.
2007-06-30 19:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her do it what have you got to lose. I mean you will have extra presents further you will not fight with your in laws be in her good books. Does not mean u have to be there right. Even if you have to be there stay awhile and tell her that the alcohol makes you feel nausea. Prefect for a pregnant lady. Let her have her fun, no harm done
2007-06-30 19:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by soundfamiliar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A baby shower is someone else throwing a party for you. It is also for others to have fun, not just yourself. If the entire party wants a drink and you don't , I suggest you not have one, rather than making EVERYONE else conform to your preferences.
2007-06-30 19:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by s7e28w81 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2nd baby shower = more gifts for you. I wouldnt have a problem with it, shes celebrating her soon to be grandbaby. ive been to baby showers with alcohol, and they were fun, no one was all crazy drunk and stupid, just casual socializing, and the rest was all the same.
2007-06-30 19:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you dont want to be aroudn the alcohol tell her to just have a grandmas shower and leave you out of it.
2007-06-30 18:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by Betsy 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋