How do I stay strong?

Question

I've had the worst luck ever when it comes to the friends I have and my family..I gave my mother my apartment while I went to go rent a room from a friend, she couldn't keep up with the payments and ended up getting evicted out, so now I have an eviction on my record, yet my mother blames me for the apartment, I have a 13 year old half sister, and she walks around here calling me "B@$! and takes my ipod's to school, goes in my purse, and my mother does nothing, I helped bond my brother out of jail, a few months ago, I'm not rich, and he never pays the money back he owes me for bailing him out....I call my grandmother to talk to her, and she sympathizes with me, and I ask her to help me get a reference to get into an organziation, from a family member, and she ignores my calls,.even my dad ignores my calls, I invited him to my graduation and he didn't return any of my calls I feel so alone, how do I stay strong? I 'm a nervous wreck, my hands shake, I feel bad about myself.I need help?

think my self esteem is gone...I have a hard time believing in myself...because I never had the support group that people need...how do I grow from this and move away from my family?

Answer 1

with Jesus

Answer 2

please don't feel bad abouut your self you have a big heart and it seems your family is taking advantage of you and that is a horrible thing to have to go thro i have 2 children of my own and i would not ever do anytihng like that to them i have worked in collections for over 20 years if you want i can show you how to write a letter to get that off your credit report because you may have a hard time getting a new apartment and you should stop bailing your family out of troubles because they know you will and they are taking advantage of you and as far as your dad goes that is just mean congradulations on graduating that is a huge accomplishment and i dont know you but i'm proud of you take care of your self you need to come first now i hope all works out for you and if you need my help with getting that off your credit report just ask god bless you

Answer 3

Wow.....It sounds like you are pretty alone. But, as you know, we are never alone when we have God. He is the father, mother, sister, brother or friend when it seems we can trust the ones we have here on earth. I have a very diysfunctional family as well and I learned at the age of 19 that I had to stop attaching myself to their bad behavior. This meant not looking to them for help, or getting caught up in their drama. But, more importantly, I had to stop providing handouts when I knew that they were not going to appreciate me, pay me back or that it may backfire and mess up my credit, life or situation. Remember, God created you, not your parents. So, in his eyes, you have the talent, abiliites and personality to do whatever you want, with our without people who support you. So, don't feel like your parents past or present is going to affect your future. Take a deep breath, realize that this too shall pass, and continue to live a honest, good life. God will take care of you and one day you will look back in amazement on how far you have come.

Answer 4

You need to take a closer walk with Jesus, seek the help of a good Christ Based Church,seek out a group of people that love the Lord, pray for your family, if you cannot afford to bail out your brother, don't do it, instead of bail, visit him in jail, The only way to improve your situation is to cling to God, ask him what to do! Let God be your pilot, not your co-pilot. When the Lord is in charge, things are easier to handle.

Answer 5

Look to the future. After graduation you can relocate and get some distance; I did that at 18 and my life turned out much better after a few years. Now reconciled, I am friendly with my family and had years without the squabbling...oh, and avoid religious organizations, they are parasites.

P.S. Stop bailing out your brother, he'll never learn if you don't.

Answer 6

You are way too nice. Avoid them all for a while. Law down the law. Don't let them walk all over you. be nice, but be selectively nice. Don't agree to help them with ANYTHING until you have had a day to think it over. Ask yourself if they would do the same for you? Tell your dad that you're disappointed in him. Tell your sister that you refuse to talk to her until she refers to you as something more respectful. Hide your things. Buy an inexpensive safe or put a lock on your door. Good luck!

Answer 7

See the site below which explains how all this can lead (if you don't thwart it) to you having a huge amount of good luck. There is no one with all good luck or all bad luck. The page about enlightenment tells how you can be strong by feeling perfect peace and limitless happiness.

Answer 8

First of all dig the head off you sister,

Cant help with the rest,sorry.
The more time that passes the more people will be able to see straight.
Just ride anything hostile awhile,gripes are like bruises or scabs,They will go away if you dont aggrivate them.
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Answer 9

It is written, "that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you." Ask the Lord to give you discernment concerning your family, because from what you say they drag you down instead of build you up. The Lord promises that He will never leave us or forsake us, even when family does. Surrender your life to Him and forget your family for awhile. Ask the Lord for guidance and direction. Only Jesus can give us hope. Learn to love God first, others second and yourself third. Yes, it is important to believe what God says about us. He created us and when we have self hatred it is like telling the Lord that He made a mistake in making us. God thinks we are fearfully and wonderfully made. He thinks we are extremely special since He created each one of us. When we don't love ourselves, it is disobedience to the Lord.

Get up and say, "I'm a child of God and I am loved very much.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I fear nothing because God is my protection and provision. I will stand on the promises of God." Speak this outloud to yourself and let your body hear and everything around you hear that you are special. Perfect love casts out all fear. Love God, love others, love enemies and love yourself.

Answer 10

You poor thing! That is so awful. You've tried to help your family and they have either taken advantage of you or ignored your needs. I will be your mother. My son-in-law had a family like that. All the ones that did things like that had terrible things happen to them in their lives and he has been so blessed. All I can say is give it all to God in prayer. He sees all you tried to do for them and how they treated you. Calm down. He will repay you and them. God bless you!

Answer 11

Distance yourself from your family and friends. Find new friends and get your life together. Basically you family is going to continue to act like retards, some may come around, but others wont. Its you're life so take care of yourself, you tried to help out others, but got burned. So at least your tried. But dont continue to dig a ditch for yourself.