Hi. There was this girl I liked very much. We became very close friends. One day I asked her out. She said she needed time to think about it. After a couple of days, I asked again. She said that she had been really unlucky in relationships. She said she was with a guy and later they broke up. The guy was not at all serious about her. So she was not comfortable with this sorta thing. A few months later, her best friend told me that she already had a boyfriend when I asked her out. And I know now that it's true. Why would she do something like that? Simply saying that was already committed would have been enough. What was the point of all this crap?
2007-06-30 10:55:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The point was that she got a kick out of knowing someone likes her, even though she wasn't available.
You don't need a liar. Drop it, and her.
2007-06-30 10:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if she did not want to hurt your feelings. She figured if she gave you a sad story about being hurt you would understand and let it go. Being honest about it would have been the best thing for her to do. That says a lot about her. Sounds like the best thing for you. I have a problem with her best friend telling you something like that. Do you really know it is true that she had a boyfriend or you basing this off her friend statements. Let it go. Everyone lies for what ever reason. It is so much harder to lie then to tell the truth. A lie always bite you in the long run.
2007-06-30 18:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by B J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Settle down little bro! You have no reason to be upset. You learned something about her that you don't like. She doesn't owe anyone an explanation. Is it your business if she is seeing someone? No! So she doesn't owe you an explanation either. You asked her out. She could have just said NO and left it at that. If you asked her why, she could just say "because I don't want to". You see, quit expecting entitlements you are not entitled to. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but you would be wise to consider my words.
2007-06-30 18:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing I have to say is, to the person below me left, how rude of you. And secondly, my idea of the whole thing is maybe she was just trying to be nice, she was probably to scared to tell you "no", on account that it may hurt your feelings. I understand how you feel though. It would have been better for her to tell you head first that she was with someone, but sometimes you have to see things through the other persons eyes. Hope everything works out! =]!
2007-06-30 18:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Margaret C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really am not sure,but maybe she liked you too and didn't wantto spoil her chances later if something were to go wrong w/her and her bf. Another possibility is she was trying to be tactful being u are her "close friend." If you are her close friend....u didn't know she had a bf? Maybe she doesn't want to ruin your friendship if you guys do end up dating and have a mishap. These are all "maybes",but i hope they helped.
2007-06-30 18:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl@heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was trying not to hurt you.
Some people are better off as friends. She was being a coward by not telling you the truth, but a females mind is a strange tool.
2007-06-30 18:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....yes that was infact wrong to lie to u, buuut mabey she just didnt want to hurt you!, some girls just feel really bad when a guy has the guts to ask a girl out by them selves, and then she might not like you and just said no, but in a different way of matter, just so she dosnt hurt you, its ok...just move on :)
you'll meet better people promise!!
2007-06-30 18:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by Amberbby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats odd she could have just told you she had a bf already and dont friends tell friends everything? I do anyways. Id say forget about her and move on she is just playing games is all.
2007-06-30 18:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not have liked you in that way or did not want to hirt your feelings. For example, she may have thought you would think why you were not good enough. Or she may not want to lose your friendship which makes you even closer to her.
2007-06-30 18:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by em0world 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she didnt want to hurt you but knows it was probably inevitable knowing ur still gonna be hurt. Sucks really
2007-06-30 18:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋