im not addicted to it and it doesnt interfere with my life but everytime im bored(cuz its summer) i just go watch some porn. it gives that that really sensational feeling which feels awesome but then after i feel i've disobeyed by self and im being immature. im 13 and im just really curious i guess. is anything wrong with me? what should i do instead of watching porn? im really distraught! help!!!
2007-06-30 10:52:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
wow, you are young, i think maybe you can try getting a hobby
2007-06-30 10:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by kk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not addicted to it than it's harmless. Your hormones are raging and you are curious about sex. There is nothing wrong with watching porn. Porn isn't immature. Men and woman of all ages view it and some even view it together. There is no need to feel guilty about it! As long as it is not the ONLY thing that consumes your time and thoughts than it's fine! It is perfectly healthy to be interested in sex so there is nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about! It makes you feel good. It's not harming anyone so there's no problem!
2007-06-30 22:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by broken_birds_fly 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's okay; calm down. Well watching porn at any age is not good; but it is not strange for teenagers today.
Don't worry but talk to someone you can trust about it: an adult because a friend your age is going through the same difficulties.
There are always things that you can find to do; and even though video games aren't great(there are loads of things that are more constructive) they are better than porn
2007-06-30 17:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by energizerbunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try romance novels instead. They make you use your mind a little more, and have way more plot and substance than porn, the porn is just meant to sexually arouse you and nothing else. If you are male and afraid your friends will tease you about it, don't let them know. Besides, you may just find they are envious of you when you find you have something to talk about with girls your age who read the romance novels.
Or if you are just bored, get a hobby or volunteer somewhere. You might even meet someone eventually, doing volunteer work.
2007-06-30 18:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by userafw 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sexual imagery is very powerful. Know that. It's wired into your male brain to get turned on by the sight of naked women. This is normal for all people. So don't try to change this. You will be unsuccessful. How you use this power makes all the difference.
Yes, porn, like any other pictures and movies, is not reality. Even if you take a picture of something real, the picture is unreal because many parts of the real thing are now gone. All you have is the image. But lots of pornography is also staged. People are told by the photographer to smile when they really don't want to smile. In movies, they are told to scream "oh god" and stuff like that while they are doing things they may not be enjoying. You never know. Because you can't ask the person from the movie if they were faking it or not.
But one of the biggest fantasies of porn is the myth of casual sex. Sex without consequenses. Physical and emotional. I'm sure you're aware of the physical consequenses like diseases and pregnancies. But there are emotional consequenses as well. Like feeling affection and attatchment, and even love, for the person you just had sex with. This is missing in pornography. And, in spite of what some people say, men feel these things too! They just may not realize it as much as women, but it's there. Trust me. This is why a lot of men feel they have to run away from the woman they just had sex with. Because they don't want to admit they have these feelings.
But apart from the sexual part of it, you have to ask yourself if there is anything else you're getting from it. People who are addicted to porn are almost never doing it because of the sexual part of it. The sexual aspect is a very small part of it. Sometimes people are doing it because they like doing things that they think are bad. Some people like the fantasy part of it. They want to escape. They don't like certain feelings and want to run away from them by going into the fantasy world of porn. People who view pornography for these reasons are in danger of it being a problem or addictive.
2007-07-02 14:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Agreed! It will totally distort not only your views on sex, but how you view and treat women, gender roles, sexual expectations, and much more.
Go pick up a book, dude. Learn about sex with a real woman; and for christ's sake don't believe for one second that the first time (or any time) you have sex that it will be like you saw on the tv/computer/magazine.
Real sex and real women are WAY better than that crap.
Take care.
2007-06-30 18:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Cara 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're 13, and your hormones are raging. But, you should'nt be watching porn. That will only distort your view of sex. Stay away from it!
2007-06-30 18:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by jadegreenkaty 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with being curious at your age. I'm sure lots of teenagers do it. There's nothing wrong with you.
2007-06-30 17:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋