how do you get your child to listen to you?

Answer 1

Firm boundaries
Strict consequences

Answer 2

A lot of the advice given here can work very well - in theory. You don't say the age of children you're thinking of, but I've always thought that if you haven't got some sense of control when they're very small, what chance might you have when they're a few years older & taller/bigger/stronger than you?
Children do prefer (reasonable) limits & discipline up to a point (even if they'll never admit it) - boundaries mean someone is taking notice, therefore must care about them. They'll always push those limits to the edge though, (& half your sanity with it) whether they're 3 or 8 or 13 years old.
Do you remember being a pain to your family/carers? How did you wind them up?
If the child is old/bright enough, only accept reasons - never excuses. If it's a much younger child then similar principles apply - firm, fair but consistent & always praise the good stuff.

Failing all that, a smack round the hear hole might serve better!
(ONLY JOKING!)
Best of luck.

ps. What do you do when the 'child' is the 50yr old father?!
(No parents to blame anymore!)

Answer 3

always get down to your childs level , tell him / her that they have been told to do something and since that they didn't listen to you and do as they are told they are to stay in a special sopt for however long according to the age of the child , if that child moves from the spot you place the child back on the spot and keep on doing that until the child gets the message , slapping a child is not the way to go in the 21st century.good luck

Answer 4

It depends on the age. We (my wife and I) found that at an early age you can teach listening skills by asking them a question which relates to the message you are trying to relay to them. You must LISTEN to their answer and reply to it. This is called communication. Talk, Listen, Talk, Listen.
It will work and when they grow older you'll find they want to Talk more than Listen. We have found at that time you must first Listen and then Talk. With the older ones always Listen first and when you Talk they will listen. I hope this helps...it does work!

Answer 5

Speak to them firmly but in a controlled voice.

Do NOT loose your temper as that means you are not in control. When a child knows you are not in control or they are making you angry they will take advantage.

Tell them what you want to tell them, teach them what you want to teach them but make sure they know you are boss. The moment they think they can do whatever they like and run riot you're onto a bit of a nightmare!!! Don't let them run the show, run it yourself.

Good displine, being fair, staying controlled and showing you have their best interests at heart is the best way. Often when you loose your temper or shout or keep repeating something a child switches off as they can not see that you are doing it because you care.

If you need to displine them, do so. I.e. put them into a naughty corner and make sure they stay there. They will soon learn bad behaviour doesn't pay.

Teach them to grow up and behave well by being strong with them so they know what's good and bad and that by being bad won't get them anywhere.

But make sure you let them know when they are doing well and praise them and show them you are happy with what they have done.

As much as they need to listen to you about what is bad, you need to show them you listen to them and can see what they do well. This will encourage the good behaviour.

Good luck :) xx

Answer 6

With my four children I have always repeated what I have said twice only then gently pushed their face to mine so I have total eye contact then repeated one more time if they continue to not listen/ignore I will then remove myself and state very clearly what I am now going to do now they have not listened (sometimes harsh reminders like throwing away a new toy or removal of a privilege) I will NOT back down on this and they are all lovely kids with lovely manners and 9 times out of ten I only have to ask them to listen and they do.

Answer 7

If I had the answer to that question, I would be a billionaire. The fact is what works for some children, doesn't always work for others. I find the best way to get my children to listen to me, is to listen to them, and give them respect. They in turn give me the same treatment.

Answer 8

It depends what you mean. If a toddler is screaming and losing their grip, whispering in their ear helps because they will quiet down so they can hear you.

If it's an older child who's not doing something you have asked them to do, first make sure it's something they are old enough to understand in the first place.

If they are old enough, use privileges. For example, if your child doesn't do what you have asked, you are under no obligation to do things you have previously done before, like drive them to the mall or buy their requested brands of school clothes.
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Answer 9

Try this book
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

And this site:
http://www.fabermazlish.com/

Answer 10

Whatever age they are ..... talk to them .... do not shout at them. You will find if you show them respect they will very soon show it in return. Also listen to them aswell, don't talk over them and they will learn not to do it to you. Children only do what they have seen done .... they learn by copying. I have three 15, 16 and 19, they all speak to me and tell me everything and always listen to me. It does work honestly !

Answer 11

Be clear first . This is all about training and not family cooperation. With hold the bottle until he responds as you decide. Or with hold the food until you can get one small obedience move. Make it grow. It will take time for two months but your life is worth it.