I am an adult man who enjoys the company of women, and some women even enjoy my company. I like to be open and honest. I want to know if you think it is ok to date several women at the same time. I think it is, especially when sex beyond kissing and showing affection is not involved. I don't think it would be right to be "sleeping" with a women and dating others without her knowledge, unless of course she insisted on not knowing and was ok with it. So, is it ok to date several women at the same time as long as you are honest and open about that you enjoy their friendship, whether it be and intimate friendship or, i guess you could say "courting" to use the old fashion term. I'm not in a hurry to hop in to bed with any women and you could say I would prefer to proceed with caution in that regard. I prefer to strengthen emotional bonds first, so I really think it's important not to move too fast in any one direction. What are your thoughts?
2007-06-30 07:21:53 · 22 answers · asked by brad 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After reading some of your answers, I am so glad to see how many understanding, emotionally mature, and agreeable ladies took the time to give me your valuable input. Thank you!
2007-06-30 07:37:47 · update #1
well lets see not all women are alike, because im about to say something no other woman said here.......women are like ummm lets say animals we compete for a mans affection so when we see this man is interested in another female we go on pounce mode ( jealousy) we want to be the favorite we want to be the "chosen" the "best" so i wouldnt tell the others you are dating as long as no sex is involved it dosnt pay to hurt someone by being that honest sometimes truth hurts i rather be in the dark when it comes to this because dating or sexual we see this man as MINE! because a man who dates several women in our eyes is just not that interested in you...period!
2007-07-07 19:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lacey S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a moral issue, yes, I think it's wrong because I don't think we should sow our oats like we are animals. However, that is just the way that I view things. In a logical way of looking at things, if you tell the women that you are seeing with other people AND sleeping with other people, then you are being honest with them. Be sure that you are honest and open. Never have unprotected sex with ANY of them. Ask about birth control. If they are on something, make sure that you know. Always use condoms because you are going between several people. You do not want to be the cause of spreading something. I think it's more important to establish an emotional and spiritual connection with the person you are interested in. I believe in courting that one special person rather than being with several at once.
2007-06-30 14:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if i would want to date a guy that is dating all these different women even if he was sleeping with them or not. It's like competition sort of. And one of the women might want to date you all the way just so she can win and when she does she can break your heart. In my opinion i think you should date 1 at a time. Plus you wont hurt any ones feelings. That's just my opinion though
2007-07-08 08:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamer818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I'm concerned, more people SHOULD date several people at a time and avoid jumping into bed right away with anyone.
Far too many people use sex as a guage to if someone "wants" them or not and get upet if there isn't action by a third date. It makes much more sense to truly connect with someone on an less superficial level first - letting sex be a "next step" in a relationship.
I applaud your choice, but it comes with a warning, make sure these women are strong, confident & sure ofthemselves with little to no esteem issues, otherwise you are in for a mess due to insecurities, jealousy & trust issues.
2007-06-30 14:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I definitely think that you have answered you own question and that you are on the right track. I must say so for myself that I love honesty over all the none sense drama coming from the latter!!! So sure it is okay because you are single and if it is out of pure fun then hey noone's feelings should be hurt especially doing it the way you have described above. Hopefully other men can take note from you and good luck in the sea!!!
2007-06-30 14:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by kimthornton1231 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is alright as long as they know from the beginning that they are not the only one you are "dating". They also need to know that if you do sleep with one you will let them know. Some women will not want to date you while others will continue to date you. Although, once you do start to look for a actual relationship I would not pick from one of the ones you were "dating", they could have mixed feelings about this.
2007-06-30 14:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your being open and honest with the women you are dating, so I don't see a problem with dating several. It sounds more like freinds than girlfriends and we can never have to many friends. As far as finding the right one well you can't find her if your not out there looking.
2007-06-30 14:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is completly ok. Just be sure to tell them from the beggining that you are not exclusive, explain to them ewaht you explained here. There is no official commintement, so I see no reason for having to be exclusive. if you are being totally honest, then there is no problem with that. When you decide to go to the next leve with one of the women you are going out with (having sex, begging to go out more regularly) then it is time to drop the other girls, because then she will be sentimentally attached and she espects exclusivity.
2007-07-08 13:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's ok, if you are being honest with each woman you are dating. I know I wouldn't have a problem with it, IF you told me up front.
Sometimes the only way you can determine if you really like someone, is to spend time with them. Maybe one of these dates will end up being the "one" for you. Then, you would need to decide to stop dating other women and just be with her if it becomes more serious on both your parts. Until then, good luck on your dating!
2007-06-30 14:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Angiej1213 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You sound like a very grounded and mature man. I would say it is definately your right to date several women at once. If a woman has a problem with this, who needs her. As we get older, single men get scarce, and single women are in droves. They can get very possesive. I think you sound lovely.
2007-06-30 14:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by suespie471 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋