Help!! My sister in law is a drug addict?

Question

My sister in law is addicted to pills. She has also smokes pot and crack. She is on prescription Xanax and adderoll (sp?) and takes whatever she can get her hands on. Her daughter, 15 years old recently also OD'd and was in a hospital for 10 days and custody was given to the dad. SInce then my sis-in-law has lost her other 2 kids to thier dad. She is a liar and a thief and talks often about hurting herself. She hit herself in the head with a hammer trying to get her ex arrested saying he threw her out of a car. She is crazy. She has not spoken to me or my husband( her brother) in 5 months b.c she thinks we had something to do with her getting her kids taken away. She has also threatened us and my then unborn child saying she would run me off the road. I never did anything she accused me of. Her mom won't help her and her brother doesn't care anymore. I want to have her committed but I am not an immediate family member. What do I do? I can't watch her kill herself.

Answer 1

I am an addict in recovery, I have 5 years with no substance abuse. I know what its like and you cant change her, or force her to stop. You need to protect yourself and family from her. DO NOT ENABLE her to continue hurting herself and others. ie.. don't give her money, don't let her use you, she may cry and whine and draw on your sympathy's, but she needs to hit bottom and sit in her own crap. her getting her kids taken away is actually a good thing, they hopefully will be safe., she needs to quit using her doctor and someone needs to anonymously alert her physician that she is abusing street drugs, this combo can and will kill her. Adderal is dangerous when mixes with meth and/or crack cocaine. Now on the other side of the coin, I am in the same shoes as you, I have a 25 yo stepson who is in the midst of drugs/alcohol, there is nothing we have been able to do to help him, us addicts need to save ourselves. We have quit the enabling (it is soooo hard to tell him no) but we trudge thru it. Last week for instance he blacked out, got arrested and wanted us to bail him out, we didnt. He was pissed , but has gotten over it, and I still dont think it marked him, he continues to drink. I have just been trying to set an example for him, pray for my own sanity to be there for him when he comes to realize he needs and wants help. I do remember the paranoia that comes along with the drug use, try not to defend yourself to her, that you werent the one who got her kids taken away, remember. she has done this to herself, you didnt put the drugs/pipe in her mouth. If you believe in God, (i am not religious, but I am very spiritual) pray for her and yourself. PS_ there is a group called AL ANON.. it works. This is a group for people who are living with or around a loved on who is the addict achoholic. They can be a great source of help.
Take care of yourself, so you can be there for her when she finds help and realizes how her life has affected yours. Try to be open and forgiving, but not so much to let her hurt you again.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think you can call the police and tell them that she is a danger to herself. If she has threatened you, did you file a police report and get a protective order? You should have, so that it would be on record.

If you call the cops and tell them she may hurt herself or someone, when they send a unit to her house, they may actually catch her doing drugs and take her away on the spot. If they suspect mental issues and/or drug abuse, they will call the proper authorities to deal with getting her committed.

This is not gonna be an easy road for you. If the police are not willing to help, you may have no choice but to sit back and watch her kill herself. Try to talk you brother into helping with an intervention for his sister. However, she must want help to stop the drug use. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

my sister is a drug addict to and a thief...we dont talk really anymore cuz i do believe you have to hit rock bottom and then there is tough love. My sister has burned all her "bridges" and now is in jail. but when she gets out she wont have a place to stay. I refuse to allow here to break my marriage up for her behavior. So i guess really you cant help someone who doesnt want the help. and never put your family in jeapordy for someone els. She is killing herself already maybe not hanging herself or cutting herself but with the drugs she is. So maybe she is crying for help but if she doesnt want the help then i would back off.

Answer 5

I understand that you just want to help her. Because you are not a family member you cannot petition to have her committed. I would suggest that you can get a restraining order or order of protection for your family, your sister-in-law appears to be out of control.

I don't know where you live but there are social agencies that can be contacted.......check your local phone book.

And this may sound cold, but after you have contacted agencies and done what you can, just let it go. People are sometimes self-destructive........ and won't let anyone help.

Hope everything went okay with your baby.

Hope this helps you.

Answer 6

She either going to lost that unborn or child born with mentally, physical issue that be scar for life and might end up in orphanage home.

that woman is a junk now you can't help her much because of an unborn baby she carry around. Best way let it go see how she play out and pray for the worst.

After the baby born or what ever out come hire a professional to have her go away and save the rest of what she created.

Answer 7

phew... a hard one! as she is on drugs and obviously has rapid mood swings i dont think you can take her threats as gospel. she is however abusing herself in more ways than one - and this is all a desperate cry for help. hopefully you can convince your husband or mother in law to see that she is very much in need of professional help and beyond helping herself. goodluck *.*

Answer 8

there really isn't anything you can do unless you can get her locked up , she has to hit a rock bottom before she changes, and as to blaming everyone else
for her problems..that's b/c of the drugs,it also sounds like she is addicted to doing drugs not one in-particular drug itself.(a trash-bin junky)

Answer 9

Only if you can convince the police that she is in danger , they will be able to do something about it. Otherwise, she needs to want to do it on her own.
Good luck !!

Answer 10

Unfortunately, you can't help someone who doesn't want help. Stay away from her. Far away and pray she doesn't kill herself or someone else.