worse of all she is the co-agent of my insurance company and my stepfather is my agent and yes we live with them trying to save up for a house. we had one check that bounced at of 1000 of them and it happened to go to her. All came to a broiling point say how ungrateful and spoiled we both are, she started saying why aren't you both at work when we both work 35+ hours a week and she is like you need a backbone. Then when i attempted to use a backbone, confronted her on lying about giving my fiance and i a piece of paper supposedly with the marry pastor info on it. she kept say i was trying to manipulate the conversation my direction. this morning i went to give her a hug i felt like she needed one and she is like you offend me the other day i was like where that is two of us i don't feel like i did anything wrong should i apology even through i feel like if i do i sink to her level of immaturity and she win the manipulation or not worry about it any more. you help lines out there.
2007-06-30 04:46:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if we could move out we wouldnt be living here to save up
2007-06-30 04:58:38 · update #1
the 1000 is not money but how many checks i have written it was the company that ran the check when it was post dated he told them not to run it until friday
2007-06-30 06:24:24 · update #2
It sounds like U tried to reach out to her with some LOVE out of LOVE and she rejected it, holding a grudge, yes trying to manipulate U into submission. My suggestion is to let it go now! U put out some positivity and she totally rejected. Just act like it is over and done and let her waste her energy on being ignorant. Choose to have a happy life and Sh** happens. If anything was done intentionally, it was her pushing Ur Hug away, that is just evil....if anything is done unintentionally, the check thing, when it hit the bank the bank has the control of clearing or holding the funds, regardless. Feel Good Always!!
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2007-06-30 04:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, so you and your fiance live with your mom and stepdad, right? And you wrote your mom a bad check--did you make that good with her and give her the money? It sounds to me like you should be living on your own, you are an adult, and adult children living with their parents is no good for anyone. It sounds like your mom is tired of having to share her home with another adult. It also sounds like your mom was the most upset about the money--which is somewhat understandable, $1000 is alot of money to most people. But then, when she confronted you about it, the arguement turned into an arguement about other issues that you and she are having.
My suggestion, find an inexpensive apartment, move out, and be an adult. I think that's what she meant by saying that you are spoiled and need a backbone. You guys work together all day long, and then go home together at night. You need to either move out of the house, or dissolve the business relationship with your mother. Possibly both at this point. You guys are spending WAYYY too much time together.
And you can save up money for a house, it just may take longer. You'll have to manage your finances a little better. Everyone else has done it, so it is possible to save up for a house while renting an apartment. You need to grow up.
2007-06-30 12:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are both working then go rent a place and save up.Use your income tax returns for a down payment on a home.It is time for you to grow up.I would NEVER let my child's fiance move in with us if I had a daughter.I would tell him he can marry her when he is standing on his own 2 feet and not before.
2007-06-30 12:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to move out and be on your own. That way the pressure is off and you have a better chance of a more normal mother/ daughter relationship.
Best of luck
2007-06-30 11:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tinman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are ungrateful and spoiled. The spoiling is their fault, they should have kicked you out on your own and let you see how the real world works.
Fix your attitude, that will fix the problems.
2007-06-30 12:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to be mean, but your "story" is pretty incoherent. Next time you post something try using punctuation and capitals.
2007-06-30 12:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by mrk21000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow.this is wayy to complicated.
2007-06-30 11:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by hehehe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What?
2007-06-30 11:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋