what is love, i mean real love...not hollywood dramatised love?

Question

and nothin slushy...just pure real love

Answer 1

what is love?

Many people believe love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. No wonder so many people are single. An excerpt from "Head to Heart."

A few years ago, I spoke to a group of high-schoolers about the Jewish idea of love.

"Someone define love," I said.

No response.

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http://www.aish.com/dating/wisdom/What_Is_Love$.asp

Answer 2

True pure love is : not asking for more than the other can give, not trying to change that other person, always caring for the other, never "tuning out" the other, never back-stabing or spreading rumors about the other. Now, if you're talking about love between a guy and girl : pretty much the same, not cheating on the other, not lying to the other, not hiding from the other, being honest with the other, not harming the other.

What's most common in a movie, guy meets girl and by the end of the movie they've kissed and completely fallen in love. Personally, I have never believed in "love at first sight." Sure, you might have a crush on this person because they're really good-looking, but in real life, you have to really get to know the person, spend alot of time together, become friends first, then move on up. Yes, it's great in the movies, but that's all just stories. It's not real.

Answer 3

It is in the marriage vows and truly sticking by them
It is after the slushy stuff wears off . For better or worse , Richer or poorer. Through thin and thick true love never dies.

Answer 4

its when you care for a person more than your self its when you cant stop thinking of that person, its when you cant stand to be away from that person,it when you kiss that person you feel the power, love is the strongest thing on earth and can be tricky but when you feel that true love for the first time you will know its real and wont doubt it at all if you think you would stay with that person even if they woke up paralyzed and you would still stay with them

Answer 5

Real pure love is briefed in a person sustaining you in life and caring about your slightest details ... that's a pure translation though.

Answer 6

Here's some information about love from the books True Love Lasts, Straight Talk About Teen Dating, and Straight Talk About Dating:

“Unfortunately, lots of people don’t know what true love is and that’s a big reason why a large number of marriage relationships are unhappy. Many people think that true love is just a feeling. You know, the wonderful head spinning feeling of being “in love.”

If true love is just a feeling, feelings come and go. But true love doesn't come and go. True love is patient and kind. It isn’t jealous, rude, selfish, controlling, or easily angered. It forgives. It’s supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.

Unlike the feeling of being “in love” which is relatively easy to get especially during dating, true love usually develops slowly over a significant period of time (often years). True love is so much more than just the feeling of being “in love” - it’s supposed to be a mutual lifelong commitment. When you say that you love your significant other, you’re saying that you’re committed to loving them for the rest of your life - for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, from this day forward, until death do you part. True love lasts - it almost never fails.

Think of it this way, if a person has true love for another person, it’s like the sun - it’s always there no matter what (remember that even at night, the sun is still there, it’s just shining on the other side of the earth - and when it’s cloudy outside the sun is also still there, it’s just behind the clouds).

On the other hand, the feeling of being “in love” is like sunshine - even though we’d like it to be sunny every day, the truth is that the amount of sunshine changes regularly. Some days it’s nice and sunny and the feeling of being “in love” is strong, on others it’s partly cloudy and the feeling of being “in love” is there but it’s not very strong, and on other days it’s cloudy and the feeling of being “in love” is barely there at all. I’m hoping that this explanation is helping you to see that it’s possible for a person to have true love for another person and not have a strong intense feeling of being “in love” with that person at a particular moment. (If you talk with married couples, I think they’ll tell you that the strength of their feelings of being “in love” changes regularly.)

So when you hear someone say, “I don't love him or her anymore” - take it for what it usually is. It’s usually someone saying that they’ve lost the feeling of being “in love”, that they don’t know how or they’re not willing to make the effort required to get the feeling back, and that they probably never had true love for their significant other to begin with because true love almost never fails.

Many times I’ve heard young women say, “my boyfriend loves me.” Unfortunately, most of these women have been fooled. How could their boyfriend possibly have true love for them if their boyfriend doesn’t even know what true love is? Sadly many people marry when one or both people don't have true love for the other - and the result is usually divorce because it's hard to keep a marriage together when it's based only on the feeling of being "in love."

My first suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already). A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), puts forth their best effort, and displays self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money).

My second suggestion is that you eventually look for this type of person (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of person is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

Hope this helps!

Answer 7

Seeing a person at their worst and accepting them for who they are. Caring about their needs in every way and not just sexually. Empathising to the point you know what they're going to say before they've even opened their mouth. Feeling like you're totally one.

Answer 8

Pure love is kind, patient, understanding, fair, selfless and trust. Not easy nowadays when almost everyone only thinks of themselves and their own rights.

Answer 9

real love, is ******* hard work!!! real love is putting up with the arguements even when you just wna run! (coze its all ok in the end, n you love 'em , right) gettin thru rough times together and never giving up on them, helping each other thru problems, and being understandin of each other

Answer 10

There is no real answer. As you can see, everybody has their own idea as to what love is. Every answer is correct to the person who gave it.