I volunteer at a pool over the summer and theres this guy that I can tell has been interested in me for a while... Finally yesterday while I was helping out sitting at the edge of the pool he made his move and sat next to me to talk... He asked if after swimming lessons were done we could hang out at the pool. I didn't want to and hesitated, but finally agreed. I tried making it obvious that I'm not interested by not looking at him too much and acting bored, and interested in what other people say to me other than what he says; but he didn't get the hint. Then he takes me away to some secluded spot at the pool, and more awkward conversation, and he asked me out on a movie date.. I declined saying that it was my dad's weekend (which was true lol)...then my younger cousin calls me out from the pool (on purpose because he could see my disinterest), and he comes out with me and asks for my number.. I have never been good at saying no to nice guys so I gave it to him.. then I tell him my
2007-06-30 04:15:37 · 13 answers · asked by Nina 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cousins are leaving on a trip and I want to spend time with them... he says that next time I better spend time with him, and I didn't really respond lol... I had told him that I would be home by sunday so he will be calling tomorow, and I do not know what to say.. and the bigger problem is that I've been interested in his cousin for some time and was planning on talking to him to get to his cousin.. what do I do??? Hoe can I gently tell him I'm not interested if I gave him my number and everything already, making him think I am more interested..?
Help please =]
2007-06-30 04:18:22 · update #1
The next time he calls or comes to see you in person, I think you can still be nice (boy, you remind me of me when I was younger). But you are obviously going to have to be direct. Say something like this:
"Hi John. Listen, I've been meaning to talk to you. I know I gave you my number and everything. I really shouldn't have. I think you are a very nice guy and all, but I'm not really interested in being anything more than a friend with you."
Really, I think that is all it would take. He may get defensive and even ask you why you are not interested. Just be prepared for that part, too. He will be a little hurt, but if he has any self-confidence, he should get over it quickly.
2007-06-30 04:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by CG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to learn to be more assertive. You're doing yourself a disservice AND the boy by agreeing to do things with him that you don't want to do. Wouldn't you be hurt or embarrassed to learn that a boy you liked did that to you just because he wasn't comfortable turning you down?
Tell the boy you appreciate his interest but you two are just not a good match and you'd rather just keep things the way they have been...you may end up with a nice friend when it's all over. âº
2007-06-30 11:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
subconsciously u know ur a HOE. thats why u spelled how wrong. in your question. just kidding.
he probably thinks ur playing hard to get. if he's insistent with the movie, ask him if u could bring a friend so it doesnt seem like a date.
or if u really want to be blunt, just say you like him or more as a FRIEND and that a movie date would not be appropriate. u dont like mixing business with pleasure and prefer not to date others u work with.
2007-06-30 11:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Diana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to send a clear signal to someone is to plainly ignore them. Walk on by him like you don't know them. He'll get the message sooner or later. You don't have to lie either. Lying just makes it worse. Also, just tell him that you're not interested in him. That's true...right? That's not a lie either.
2007-06-30 11:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MUST LEARN TO SAY NO. You are not doing him a favor by getting his hopes up. There will be plenty of times you have to say no in the future so practice now. If you don't, you'll spend half of your life nervous and scared and catering to other people's emotions rather than your own. Practice now.. you don't have to be mean! Start it out with a compliment.....
2007-06-30 11:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First quit being rude, 2nd quit expecting him to read your mind.3rd tell him you like him as a friend but you are not romantically interested in him and never will be sorry.If you are old enough to have a b/f then you have to be old enough to be honest with people, if you cannot say this to this young man then you have NO business ever dating until you can.
2007-06-30 11:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is be straight forward with him. It may hurt him a little but he will get over it. I think he would appreciate your honesty. As for his cousin, well I think you should try to get with him on a different way or something.
2007-06-30 11:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by mamashortydoowop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be striaght up, it may be mean but it will hurt him less if you cut him lose now instead of leading him on.
trust me getting your legs out from the beginning hurts a hell of alot less then being led on for along time.
2007-06-30 11:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by dwickleworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him the truth,tell him that you just want to be friends.I'm sure he'll understand.but don't go out with him becuz you like his cuzin that would be 100% wrong.His cousin and him wont like you if you do that.
telling him lies would just make it worst.
2007-06-30 11:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by DivinaRose S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just tell him you are not interested. You are sending the guy mixed messages.
2007-06-30 11:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋