Okay, I am a stay at home mom. I have two kids (3 counting the boyfriend). I go to school online, take care of my 6 month olds every little whim (bless his little adorable self =), keep track of my 8 yr old running in and out of the house, when there is school that he is doing his work. I cook, do laundry and clean. The part I am most upset with is I clean one room, move on to the next, only to find the clean room is no longer clean. Think it is my children? Partially, but add into the mix my boyfriend who thinks all he has to do is work. I may not be working but if I am going to be a 24 hr a day maid that caters to him, I want pocket money. My job doesn't end at 5pm. Then he gets mad cuz I am "b**hing. Well, do I go to his job and screw up his parts and say oh well, I am done for the day, let's screw up all you worked hard at? I contribute my part, but my part gets disrespected. Time to strike? Nope, doesn't help, neithr does talking to him. Just venting, you can too!
2007-06-30 04:13:33 · 3 answers · asked by ohmom2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are living with and have children by someone who has no commitment to you, and doesn't have to have a partnership with you. That's one of the problems of not being married. I'm not suggesting you marry this childish selfish brat because you don't need to be raising someone else's child.
You cannot force someone to respect you. You have shown him you don't respect yourself to stand up for what you should have in life, nor do you show self respect in not allowing him to treat you like a doormat. He didn't just suddenly wake up one morning and get this way. You've allowed him to behave like this all along and now you want him to stop. Why should he listen to you? Its like your older son, if he breaks a toy on purpose and there are no consequences, then its not fair of you to suddenly punish him for doing the very same thing the next time he does it. Consistency is the key with children and men who act like children.
If you want to change things, then change yourself. If you don't want to be his maid, then demand more. If he isn't interested in that, then move along. He's not worth your time.
2007-06-30 04:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will NEVER keep a house perfectly spotless with kids running around.Clean it once and also start teaching the 8 yr old how to make their bed and clean their room now or else they will not clean their house when they get older.This is part of your job.When they clean their room and mess it up, make them clean it again unless they are busy playing in it.When they do this, they will think twice before messing it up.Also, if your shack up (who owes you nothing because a commitment has not been made) helps with the kids at all after work, then you are both working together when he gets home.He leaves one job and comes home to another.He also has the burden of making sure the finances are met.Now set another good example for your kids and get married.Your living like you are already so you may as well be.
2007-06-30 04:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to get any better unless you give him incentive to change. You may have to boot his sorry a$$ out.
2007-06-30 04:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋