i am fwb (friends with benifits) with my best friends brother. i like him and he likes me but we dont wanna date. so we are fwb. but when im with him it feels weird.and my friend doesnt know that we are fwb. so i donno if i shoul tell him i cant be fwb with him or just leave it the way it is?
2007-06-30 04:06:12 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps we are not having sex we are 13 and 14
2007-06-30 04:20:42 · update #1
If it doesn't feel right, then maybe you should stop. I mean, you could be spending time with this guy who you are not going to date, and the right guy could be waiting somewhere.
2007-06-30 04:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by Shellie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, why do you not want to date? is it to keep from hurting your friend/his sister? If so, that is really sweet of you.
It depends on what you value more and how you think your friend would react to finding out. If you feel weird (I presume this means emotions are getting into it), then ask if he wants to move on to the next level... but ask your friend first. If you don't think your friend would approve, let it go and stop. If you have feelings for him, you deserve better than just fwb. Tell him it is dating or nothing... or, if your friend would disapprove, I'd say it's better not to ruin a friendship, so you should end it.
Good luck. It's a difficult situation.
2007-06-30 11:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by missesmoo236 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it don't feel right then it probably is not right for you maybe you want something more for your self then a fwb. Try waiting on a guy that is really interested in you. You don't have to be happy with just anything wait on the real thing and be happy for the rest of your life.
2007-06-30 11:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels weird to you then something about it isn't right or you wouldn't be having those feelings. Listen to your instinct and go from there. FWB can be a nice, enjoyable thing if it's right for both people and the emotions don't get out of control, yet it can also cause problems and sometimes ruin friendships. I think you should pay attention to your feelings.
2007-06-30 11:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen" is the old saying that rolls through my mind. If you are not happy with your situation then I say end it because it will continue to make you wander as you linger on in this relationship that has no future. Let it be what it is and be more for what is best at all times for yourself and don't try to appease him and then in turn sacrifice you and who you are as a person. Be better and be stronger!!! It is not worth it let him go!!!
2007-06-30 11:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by kimthornton1231 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sam, if it doesn't feel right, then consider stopping it. Listen to your gut instinct. Your friend will pick up on the fact that your having sex with her brother, thats only a matter of time. And it might cost you that friendship. Good luck dear.
2007-06-30 11:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you should prolly stop before it gets too complicated. FWB are already too complicated, and aren't really a good idea in the first place because this usually happens. so you should end it, or start dating.
2007-06-30 11:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean by weird?
weird meaning not good in bed-dump him
weird meaning worried about his sis-been there and done that, and the sis didn't care. She and I were best buds and that was above her relationship with her bros. Long story short we all get along now and this was years ago.
2007-06-30 11:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by beenthere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to let go of the situation before there is any further damage
2007-06-30 11:10:27 · answer #9 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be really awkward if you meet someone and they want the benefits only package too
2007-06-30 11:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋