Should I date a 20 year old marine that just came back from Iraq?

Question

I am a 23 year old single mom. I met this great guy online last September. We have kept in contact and have even exchanged phone numbers. We have become really close and pretty much talk about anything. The problem is that I feel like he is too young. He is a father of two lil one from different moms and both children were conceived in a period of 6 months. He says that being in Iraq, he has realized many things and has even volunteer to help with both childrens and has bought them a plane ticket to have them come to CA from TX to visit. Now that he came back from Iraq, he insists for us to finally meet in person. He says he wants for us to meet and that he is looking for a serious relationship. His family and even one of his ex's are all excited to meet me? should I take a chance and go for it or should I just make it clear that friendship is all that I want?

Answer 1

Decisions Decisions...........he is only 3 years younger than you....that aint bad. if thats the only reason then go rite ahead, try it out, if you dont like it then what is the worst that will happen??? you will break up..uh oh its not like you nvr broke up w/ neone before. he has alot of extra baggage (as in kids) but im sure they will accept you just like he will. if you have feelings go for it, and if the MAIN reason for not meeting him is his age......go for it......who knows he could be mr. rite??? ANYWAYS marines are HOTTTTTTT what have you got to lose lol......jk (well they are hot though) Goodluck

Answer 2

First of all with him being over in Iraq he has seen and experienced many things, things he will never get over and be able to talk to you about, and you will never be able to experience what he has seen and dealt with, and he still doesn't know how to quite handle some of those things. I think being a single mom you have your hands full just trying to raise a child, thats a 24 hour job, I personally don't think you should take on the responsibility of a man with two small children, you don't need to be dealing with his two, and also his stress from being over in Iraq. Of course this is just my opinion.

Answer 3

Is friendship really all you want? if yes then don`t let this man bring his hopes up! If you`re open to a more serious relationship go and meet him for a brief rendez-vous. As long as you haven`t met your relationship means nothing. Meeting him doesn`t mean you are gonna get involved.

Answer 4

Why not meet him, and I would take it slow from there. But remember about him father two kids in a period of 6 months for each.

Answer 5

i think that this is something you need to analyze in your own mind . I mean he has fathered 2 children in 6 mos time with 2 different women his pattern is not really stable .I think that if you are looking for a serious relationship this probably would not be the guy for it sorry I know that this is not what you are looking for . good luck .

Answer 6

pray about it. you can't go wrong by taking a chance, just ask God to give you that instinct. Now if you are questioning too much then you know you shouldn't. If your questioning is out of nerves or worry like I said, just pray. You have nothing to lose if you do and maybe a lot if you don't.

Answer 7

We don't have a crystal ball that predicts the future, either take the risk of getting hurt or spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been. He may just be the one.

I am sure he will beat you up either way ha ha:P

Answer 8

Sure, take a chance, and go for it! There's nothing to lose, you don't seem to be emotionally attached yet, so go in with an open mind and just see where it takes you.

But, do have your guard up, don't let him take advantage of you, and you just be another girl that he gets pregnant and leaves.

Answer 9

Three years is not a big gap. Go for it.

Answer 10

YES!