I am 30 years old, I like my boyfriend, i love him to death and we are about to get married. He does get me excited. I love it when he touches me and the first 5 penetrations but then everything becomes a bore. What is the problem??? Serious answers only
2007-06-30 03:40:12 · 16 answers · asked by Ive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you talking about an orgasm DURING intercourse?? Because, dear...87% of women CANNOT orgasm through intercourse alone, they need clitoral stimulation.
Yes, 87%....staggering, isn't it? But still, women are made to feel incomplete if they can't climax that way, so a lot of them fake it (yes, guys.... A LOT!). These are accurate numbers, from sex therapists.
So, you either find a position where you can get clitoral stimulation AND intercourse, or try to climax through manual or oral stimulation alone.
2007-06-30 03:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my wife for 13 years. One night I was drinking, and I guess did not realize it. I was drunk. That's not like me, but she was feeling a bit sexy. So we go at it. It was pretty crazy. Somehow, we ended up with our feet at the head board and our heads were where our feet should be.
I used the head board to push off with. Now we had, had sex before, and we thought it to be pretty good. Nothing like this. I had the backs of her knees resting in my bent elbows. When we were done she had a very wet orgasm, I thought she had 'an accident'. No, she was trembling. I used to be a minute man with her, because she is so loud, and talking dirty. Not anymore. I control it. We were 20 (her) and I was 25 y/o when we met. It wasn't till I was 32 till we figured this little position out. So it took a while to find the right way, but eventually we did. I love her now more than ever, and when we make love, I feel like I am king of the world and she lets me know it.
2007-06-30 11:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by richard r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great question by the way. I think you may be like me. It might be that you need a little more stimulation prior to intercourse whether it is fingering, oral sex or even using toys. Is your mind on him when you are having sex or does it wander? for some reason if i am not 100 percent aroused during sex I start thinking about things. I love my fiance to death too......but when it comes to having sex and kissing....he kinda lacks in that department. It is not that he is bad at sex, but he just doesn't touch me the way i want to be touched. Maybe this is the same for you? Maybe tell him what you like and want.....Some girls take longer to have an orgasm so don't feel bad if it is harder for you to do so.Don't be shy about using sex toys! TRUST ME!!!! If you want an a great orgasm go to an adult store or even a Spencer's at your local mall and purchase one. You can use that when you are having sex to stimualte you more. And once you get off.....MY OH MY!!!!!
Hope this helps!
2007-06-30 10:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by April 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong at all. It is very common to not get an orgasm. Since you are getting married you will have plenty of time to experiment. Getting frustrated about it will only make it worse. Find out if he is willing to try new things. Some women are ashamed to speak up about what they like. He will get frustrated though once he realizes you aren't pleased. Be patient and keep trying. Keep it different, too.
2007-06-30 10:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by cmortality 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be you don't give yourself enough time to allow yourself to come.
Maybe he needs to take more time pleasuring you before he penetrates, with oral or manual stimulation, and make sure you are on the edge before he enters you.
Have a chat with your b/f and see what he can do to get you to experience orgasm - once you do you'll never want to stop !! Good luck.
2007-06-30 10:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to masturbate to know if you really cannot have an orgasm. Try some sex toys too and even asked your boyfriend to use them to you or play with yourself while he's pumping you. Give him a hand if he's not capable on giving you an orgasm.
2007-06-30 11:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some it takes awhile to find the right spot. Others it can be emotionally connecting. Just give it time the more you stress over it the less likely it will happen.
2007-06-30 10:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you do it by yourself? If so, you should tell him how to do it. If not, do some research and find out how to make yourself have one. If that doesn't work, you both could take some sexual therapy. It will help.
2007-06-30 10:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by son_of_glen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
could be health related... a mental issue.. or not the right guy. or the right guy and anxiety.. which is mental related. maybe you two need to improve in bed. all these things and none of these things..could be the answer. start with a check up. good luck
2007-06-30 10:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he hadnt find ur spot yet
did u had with other lovers?
how many lovers u had till him and with how many of those had an orgasm?
2007-06-30 10:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋