Well, I asked my friend if she wanted to come on holiday the first 2 weeks of august. she was thrilled and said yes, but now, it might sound harsh but, ive changed my mind! i love my friend loads and i really dont want to hurt her feelings, its just after a while, she tends to get her own way and we argue, and i dont want a holiday like that, i shouldent of asked her in the first place,, someone please tell me how i can tell her i dont want her to come in a nice way? i dont want to break friends with her!! thanks! =) x x x
2007-06-30 03:19:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You either need to just come out and be honest with her. Tell her you are concerned you two will argue during this time. Or you need to make plans outside of each other during the two weeks. Tell her upfront that you will be doing things outside of her and your time while you are on vacation. Tell her she may want to make plans to do the same. Maybe that would be enough for her to decided not to go.
Good Luck~
Just be honest
2007-06-30 03:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her that u luv her but u don't want 2 argue with her on the vacation.....and it may be better to plan separate vacations to avoid this.
smile and make sure she feels ok, and is not hurt by ur change of plans (but dont let her come unless u r really sure u can avoid fights in another way, not just cause she is kinda sad). if she is sad, give her a hug (if u guys hug) and tell her u r afraid u'll fight, and u dont want 2 ruin the vacation with arguing. tell her that if you two didnt have a tendency to fight, you would luv her 2 b there. she may say that she can stop herself, but if she really cant, just stress it may happen anyway.
end it by making sure that u make plans w/ her after u get back, so that she knows ur still buddies. stress that u really want that 2 happen. u can also offer 2 help her plan her own. that way, u can make sure that she will enjoy her vacation as u enjoy urs. hope this works!
2007-06-30 10:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
instead of uninviting your friend, perhaps the two of you could have a discussion about compromise and learn to "agree to disagree".
seems to me you love your friend. if you two spend too much time arguing, maybe it's a good topic for discussion and something to work toward change?
you could let her know you don't want to argue, and that you'd like to meet her 1/2 way on subjects you don't agree upon.
apparently, your friend means quite a lot to YOU... when people are close, they should be able to solve their problems by talking things over.
perhaps before "uninviting" her, you could approach her about the arguments and fighting, by letting her know you'd rather try to get along and resolve issues, instead of the arguments....
even if you still don't want her on vacation with you, talking things out might teach both of you better communication skills and help you in future relationships.
we really need to talk to people in order for them to know what we want and feel....
take care and enjoy your vacation!
2007-06-30 10:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you and your friend have had a little spat. Forget it. If you still want to remain friends just go ahead and have a good time in August like you had originally planned.
2007-06-30 10:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋