there's this person i really,truely loved and he just didnt care so i really need to get over him but i cant find the best way to!
2007-06-30 01:16:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you don't get over someone that special by replacing them with someone else, so that's out of the question.
Just mingle with your friends and do all the things you've been meaning to do. If that doesn't help, then someone made a mistake methinks. You don't have to let go of memories that made you happy, lock them away in a safe place and just try to create some more.
2007-06-30 01:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My goodness. This is just like me last summer.
I know it's hard, but you just have to move on. Get rid of as many things as you can that remind you of him. Rely on your support network and enjoy the company of family and friends that you trust. Take up a new hobby, or do something, anything that fully engages your mind to start to forget about him.
Only thing I can't give advice on is how long it will take. It varies from person-to-person and from situation-to-situation. Just have to hang in there and tough it out. And once you are over him, you WILL know the exact moment.
Just don't go and date somebody else on the rebound though. If you are not totally over this guy at that time, it will mess you up even more.
I wish you well. Hopefully one day you'll find the guy that will truly love you back.
2007-06-30 01:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do about getting over someone you love. it naturally has to take its course and its a very pain full road to go down.
my advice to you, would be to make sure you delete all numbers you may have of him and even photo,s if you are brave enough to do that as you are just going to torment you self
remember the things that remind you that he did not care and never going back as you need to move forward in your life.
most importantly he is the looser out of this as he has lost you and you are a better person than him.
someone will come along that will treat you with respect and love you for who you are, but please do not jump straight into the fire as being on the re-bound is nothing worse.
god luck.
2007-06-30 01:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by spark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is try to take ur mind off of it and then after time, you won't feel so bad. Believe me sweetie, I've been there and I know it hurts, you just have to start the healing process. Try to keep yourself busy- hang out with friends, find a new hobby, anything instead of staying in the house and dwelling on the situation. Good luck!
2007-06-30 01:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard point here coz usually we get over persons we had clashes with though we loved them previously!
Now you still love them but wanna flip away and get over them ... mainly would be difficult but mingling yourself quite well in a community and among friends, showing up more interests in your life and getting your self busy in addition to the time factor will help a lot in making it less yet never diminishing it totally.
2007-06-30 01:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a way I got over my boyfriend was, deleting him off instant messenger, off facebook or myspace, and deleting everything he sent to you or gave to you so that way you can forget about him . go out with your friends and have fun and flirt with other guys . sometimes i don't even think of him anymore because right now he is the last thing on my mind ! and something i realized .. he wasn't the one making me happy .. it was my amazing friends and family, and i kind of put them out of my life for a while and i regret that but everything is great now because i have realized what i was doing . my friends and family and pets make me the person i am and they make me happy :) so don't think a man is everything because hes not . :) you'll know when you find that someone , that hes meant for you . clearly my ex wasn't . now that i look back .. he treated me like crap ! so don't worry. life goes on, and its better without him :) and i REALLY loved my ex too, but now i don't because were not together anymore, and if he hurt you why do you love him ?? that's exactly what i had to ask myself, and by doing what i just told you, i finally stood up for myself, and pushed him right out of my life and my heart !!
2007-06-30 01:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by *malibu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is a first love, then you will slowly get over him but will always carry a special place in your heart for him, if it's a once in a lifetime love~~then that's where it will be hard....you will always wonder, what if, how come, etc....you will move on with your life, but it will be hard, you will date and when you do, the first one will make you cry almost like you betrayed the one you love and as for really loving someone ever again, you will wonder if you will or can.
2007-06-30 01:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. and he was someone you never thought, expected or even wanted to love it just happened and now you're hurt and fucked. it took me two years of total hell chasing after my love even though he fucked me off. i still love him but I don't hurt that bad anymore and have sort of moved on because i realized he is a paranoid-delusional-schitzo and no matter what he is never going to see me for the person i really am and how much i really love him. he will always see me the way he fears i am and is never going to see me the real me. i think it's Gods way of reminding me that men suck normally so it's not me and i go on not wanting a relationship again but knowing i have to in order to survive.
2007-06-30 01:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by miss_spunderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you find a replacement that you may someday come to truely love someone you don't mine spend that free time with someone you wanted to known,someone that you could look at and see your self growing older with.
2007-07-02 03:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by william s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME is the best medicine!!
make sure you occupy yourself with either going out with friends,re do your room,go on holiday etc etc.....
true love is hard to find & harder to forget!!! you might never forget this person,but @ least the hurt wont be there in time!!!!
good luck!
2007-06-30 01:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋