Should you be allowed to decipline anothers child?

Question

I am 21 and my younger sister is four.she is extremly naughty,she swears at familly and her mother is so lost she cant controll her,she does not believe in smacks.yet i do,she hits others,steals and is a complete bully for a little girl.She spat im my face and i smacked her bum.I got into trouble yet why.....its my step sister and i dont want her growing up to be a B!#ch. That is where she is heading and i refuse to let her...any advise what i should do would be great

Answer 1

Your stepmother is creating a monster, with no respect for anyone or anything else.When your sister gets older and she spits in her mother's face,your stepmother is going to say what did I do wrong. you tell her you created the the monster now live with it! But for you "bust her tail" and she will grow up to know she can't treat you that way!

Answer 2

Oh boy... You didn't do anything wrong. Your little sister is a complete monster, and since she technically assaulted you, you are not wrong!! It would be the same as if she charged at you with a knife and you knocked her out.

I'm guessing she has no rules and pretty much runs the house - am I right? You need to speak to her parents as rational adults (you're not criticizing them, but you don't want to be around her and others will feel the same way) and tell them she can't be allowed to run amok like this - she's BEGGING for some rules or guidance. Otherwise, wait until she starts school and gets her clock cleaned by another kindergartener.

Answer 3

There is discipline and there is smacking. You are never, ever allowed to hit someone else's kid. Ever! And since you are a step sister and not even a half sister, you definitely don't want to do that.
There are far more effective ways to discipline a child, especially when you aren't the parent. If you stepsister wants to around you, the best thing you can do is let her know that she cannot behave a certain way and get attention from you. My best friend is an aunt to a little girl who tends to whine when around grandma and grandpa and otherwise behaves badly because they let her get away with it. But when she is with Aunt Tonya, she's practically an angel. That's because she knows that her aunt won't put up with it and will take her home.

Answer 4

Ignoring her is a good form of punishment. When she does the naughty stuff say to her i don't like that behaviour i don't want to see that and walk away from her. If shes trying to speak to you don't respond. When she hits you, take hold of her hands and say to her if i were to hit you like that, would you like it? Make sure you tell her that her behaviour isn't acceptable when she aims it at you.
Her mother is the one who should be disciplining her. You shouldn't be smacking her as it isn't your place. A parent or guardian is really the only person who should be doing that. However you don't have to accept that sort of behaviour from a child. Your an adult and she's not. As adults we can correct a child when they are doing the wrong thing, because children don't always know.
If her mother cant handle her she may need help in thinking of strategies for dealing with your sister and her behaviour.

Answer 5

Sometimes it's a necessary act for a sibling to lead the way. Indeed i would have smack her butt too (I have a younger sibling as well). Tell your parents that her behaviour is leading to a path of violence and destruction (be serious because they might think you are joking). If she is staying with you then you might have to take charge once in a while and discipline. Time out sometimes works very effectively for a girl her age.

Answer 6

so you have to talk to your mom about this and tell her all your emotions like I don't want her to be a bit..!
So then you hold your little sister down and talk with her...threaten to take away her toys and her games and to lock her in her room if she swears or hits or..you know but w.e
and you dont actually hold her prisoner but do take her stuff away and the first time it might now work she might still be mean or the second or third but she is going to wail and scream and stuff...but ya if it takes that then the extream has to happen if you dont want to throw her stuff away hide it... and ALWAYS keep time out a option...you can put her in the room and close the door until she is ready to come out a apologize...I know i sound really harsh but think of the longrun but also.. you could hit her and obvously lightly...right tell her what she did was wrong you did the right thing ok just try not to do that so often ok but always try and do your best to corrects your parents mistakes!...
I hope i helped hun
christina xoxo

Answer 7

There is absolutly nothing wrong with what you did! Especially if you are being left to care for her, then you have no choice.

The mother needs to get a clue and start correcting!! Or the girl will turn out rude, with no respect for others. Sounds like she is already on that path!

Also, spanking is not illegal.

Answer 8

I don't think allowance is the issue, I just wouldn't discipline another persons child. I have no need or want to get involved with that.
But your case is different. This is you sister who is only 4 (step or not) and if it was mine and she spit in my face I would definitely punish her.
You need to talk to whichever parent of yours is her biological parent too.
There is nothing worse than a bratty little girl. She will push away friends and become even more bratty and her mother will continue to coddle her. Like you said she will grow into a teenage B!

Answer 9

I have two children and it is NOT the odler ones job to discipline the younger. They are 12 yrs apart ao although it is not as much of a gap there is a huge age difference like you and yours. I do understadn why you must be frustrated though but smackign is not the only form of discipline. Not every form works for every child. Perhaps it is simply time that your stepmother try another one? Not really your place to tell her that either though. Tough spot. YOUR best bet as a big sister is to just show her the proper way to be3have by example.

Answer 10

Watch the age difference and you must understand the behaviour of the child as a child.How you would have behaved if you were in her position?Then examine yourself and you will find the answer yourself.The feelings of a girl at the age of 4 can not remain constant later on or when she reaches your age.It all depends on how both treat one another and the reason behind her behaviour.If you can not change her then change yourself.It will change everything.