How do I tell my girlfriend that she has gained too much weight and is less attractive now?

Answer 1

Love may be blind, but physical attraction REALLY is very important in a relationship. My partner is a bit overweight, and I'd really love it if he would slim down, although i am a bit more worried for his health than for his appearance. We have talked honestly, and once we have finished school we are BOTH getting a gym membership and getting in shape.

I think you should do it, ask her if she would like to join a gym with you and get fit. If she asks why, well tell her honestly.

As my father always says, Honesty is the best policy. Of course do not be harsh, and let her know how EMOTIONALLY you love her just as much as you always have, but physically you are finding yourself less attracted. Think of all the health reasons too! Being fat is totally bad for you.


Also, if you are going to tell her all this, then you'd better be a bit of a top hog in the looks department yourself. ie: Don't be a hypocrite.

Answer 2

No offense, okay? :D But don't you dare! Saying that she's fat in a nice way or hurtful way will not give you any right to be called a worthy boyfriend! Okay. There's absolutely no easy way to say it. Because different girls could react to that differently. If you really love her, tell everyday she's beautiful. Maybe you can tell her that she looks beautiful even if she's gained weight. Keep telling her that she's gorgeous. But if you're the usual superficial guy that cares nothing but the beauty of a girl, then you really should wish that you'll even be able to find true love because we hate it when the looks are the only thing guys want from us. It's flattering, but annoying.

Answer 3

I don't think you can tell her. But, one thing you can do is help her lose weight. For example, when you chose a place for dinner, chose someplace with healthier menu items. You may even make a remark about it, and see how she reacts. Be careful! Also, suggest that the two of you exercise together. Again, watch her reaction. Does she seem receptive? If so, you may be going in a good direction. If not, outlook not so good. If you desire slim women, you can't help that. If she's a great person, you can work on weather or not you can adjust your attitude to weight issues.

Answer 4

you don't need to tell her - believe me, she knows. you will just hurt her. and you are kind of superficial - but hey - you like what you like. if you love your girl, talk to her and let her know you are worried about the weight gain - find out what is wrong, but DO NOT say she is less attractive tell her you are worried about the health aspect of this. maybe do somethings with her that are active and get her moving - shop for groceries your self and bring healthy food into the house. lots of sex burns lots of calories by the way. or don't do any of that and get a gym membership for the both of you....... tell her you want to get more fit and healthy and it would be fun to do it together. just please do not say She is too big now and unattractive, that will break her heart and make the problem worse.

Answer 5

BE A MAN..... she has to know!!!

if you weren't looking your best how would it be?

I personally take care of myself so I expect her to do the same.................................

However, if you love her.... it's a bit different... say it in a way it will make her want to look just as good as she did.... try motivating her getting into shape - because she will feel better looking great... You know her better so you should know how to do that *(there is no "one way" for doing it right - depends on her)... you can't say it or do something to punish her - bad idea to tell her something stupid like "if you don't get in shape we're history" or "you know, you got FAT... what are you going to do about it" or anything of that matter -....

get into a conversation about psychically condition and ask her (in a very manly tone of voice) if she is feeling sexy anymore! ... listen to her..... listen to what she has to say like you really care! then tell her that to you she is beautiful (like you mean it), but you really think that it would do her better if she would get back into shape... then slap her *** and tell her something like: puunk! i have my eye on you... i want you back into shape ;) ;) ;)..........

if she doesn't understand the message - drop the fat lazy ***, is nothing more boring in a relationship than a boring partner ;).....


Best of LUCK.... remember - be a real ****** man and tell what is on your mind! just do it in a way that she can understand and relate to!

Answer 6

Did she have a baby? Is she going through some really stressful stuff? Maybe she is eating because she is not happy. Sex is a good way to work off calories and stress. Jump her well-padded bones.

Answer 7

YOU DO NOT TELL HER THAT! she will get really mad. just take walks with her if she wants do not push it. She already knows she gained weight she does not need you to tell her. When she wants to loose it she will. YOU need to like her for her and not bc of her physical body appreance.

Answer 8

You are too silly to think all this. If you have a girl friend means you share all your likes any dislikes. If any of you cannot digest any bad comments or compliments you are never good friends

Answer 9

hey that is tough. but here is what you can do. take her out to one quite place like a park or garden the tell her as if you are advicing her not as if you are commanding ok. but be careful she might misunderstand you.

Answer 10

Just tell her and get it over with, the longer you put it off the harder it will be for you.The truth hurts.