Ok, so I broke up with my boyfriend of over two years tonight. He was my first everything. We've broken up before but I just felt somewhere deep down that he could change, so I went back to him and asked if we could get back together and we always do. Everytime it's the same thing..."I promise to do better," etc etc...
Problem is, he never does do better or when he does, it's not for too much longer then I find myself in the same place I was in before. It's a never ending cycle and I can't help but go back to him because I love him so much.
What do I?? How do I keep myself from contacting him? I know he expects me to contact him, and I kind of expect it of myself too, but deep down I know it can only end badly. Any advice?
2007-06-30 00:33:11 · 12 answers · asked by Bats 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just try to go out of town or somewhere far where you cant contact him for a while.....by while I mean more than usual....you will either find out that it is possible to forget about him or that he will really change this time...the other option will only come true only when he really feels he lost you....got my point...
best of luck
SD
2007-06-30 00:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by SD 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do some inner searching. Read the bible (or whatever is the equivalent in your religion). Hang around friends more and tell yourself that you deserve better. Make a list of all the things you want in a partner then save it and look at it whenever you find yourself slipping back to him. You could try writing him a letter explaining how much it hurts and all those other feelings and you could either just save it and read it or send it or have someone give it to him if you feel too weak in being in his presence. All my rambling basically is develop some more love and respect for yourself by finding out what is important to you and not settling for old habits.
P.S.- You could also change the (bad) habits that are leading you back to him.Also, try not dating until you are 100% certain you can give your full heart to someone else.
2007-06-30 00:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i actually did read your story and i know how hard it is i just went through a breakup and it feels like you'll never be happy again, but you will be happy again. It takes time and what you need to do is completely cut him out of your life and move on even though its hard. You have to keep telling yourself things will get better because they will get better, i promise you that. IF you are with the right guy you can never be too needy, you will both love each other and things wont be perfect but nothing will ruin your relationship if its meant to be. Everything happens for a reason and you will meet a better guy that treats you right and cares about you and doesnt hangout with toher girls when he knows it bothers you.
2016-05-19 02:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not think Your first anything is ever a lasting raltionship. And its not good to be in a relationship where you get in a habit of breaking up and getting back together all the time.
Go out and have fun with friends. Go on dates but dont get serious with any guy right off the bat rebounds hardly ever work out.
Im not saying to go out and be "slutty" but how will you know if "the one for you" is out ther if this guy has been your only boyfriend
go party have fun good hunting
2007-06-30 00:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by eckkblanchard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off completely, delete his phone number from your phone, notebook, PDA, writing pad. Block him and remove from MSN, from your email accounts, from myspace/friendster.
Then start dating someone else, or at least look very hard - you can even get a rebound fling if you are comfortable with that, just a casual relationship without any strings attached as long as you practise safe sex.
Spend more time with girlfriends, and make new friends. Take up new hobbies and if you are in school still, focus on your education. Whomever you date or are not dating you will never regret if you do well at school.
2007-06-30 00:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by bronzedgal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok seriously if you think about it you guys are not sure if this is what you want. Yeah he may be wicked cool and awesome and basicaly is the cool kid on a friday night! However you need to do what makes you happy!!
2007-06-30 00:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Nick C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Match his good and bad deeds. If his good deeds are over his bad. then u must go back to him and advise him in a different way you have not exercised earlier. Try to involve his friends is also a good idea.
2007-06-30 00:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by jahangir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, don't contact him. You are letting your hormones run you. You know the truth if you sit, and think about it.
You said already, you know it will end bad. And it will. so move on.
2007-06-30 00:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all....ask ur self u could live without him???
and the 2nd thing no 1 is perfect in this world...so just give him time...and discuss ur prb wid him.....tell him his good things,and just remember ur happiest moment whatever u both passed....and mean while tell him to improve him....
2007-06-30 02:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet another guy and just keep yourself busy........you don't necessarily have to go out with him and date him, just make yourself busy
2007-06-30 00:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋