My husband-to-be is not keen on inlaws being at wedding either but we are wondering with something as special as a wedding, should we invite them? They hate me and say so to my face and constantly tell my partner he should break it off with me. we've been together 7 years & have 3 kids but I'm not good enough according to them because I came from a family with no money. We are thinking more of the aunts & uncles on partners side who we definately want to invite and have a lot of respect for. They would like to see us invite the inlaws. We thought about marrying while on holidays then coming back for a BBQ, but still have the dilema of who and who not to invite. Also, partner has a brother & sister-in -law who are not nice people, definately not invited to the wedding. The inlaws would put the pressure on us to invite them as all the other brothers & sisters will be invited. MESSY! any helpful advice appreciated- thanks. dustmud.
2007-06-29 23:20:10 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think to avoid drama you should consider elopement.
If you want a reception or BBQ a couple of weeks later, then just invite everyone. At least that way, there will not be drama at the wedding itself.
2007-06-30 00:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would sure hate to be in you shoes. Have you thought of eloping? Then after the storm, have a small reception?
This is a tough one.
If you really want the wedding, then you will most assuredly have to bite the bullet and hope the police aren't invited.
I understand your feelings, but maybe to keep the peace, invite them and be as nice as possible. You can attract more flies to honey than to vinegar.
But on the other hand, who is paying for the wedding? If you are with no family involvement financially, then you are free to invite or un-invite anyone you please
Good luck and GOD bless you!
2007-07-02 16:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not inviting them would probably be a bad thing it would give them something to forever ***** about. Although inviting them could be a nightmare also.
It would probably be better to have a private intimate wedding similar to eloping and then have a reception when you return.
Maybe even two one for friends and family and maybe a smaller version like BBQ with the less desired family members so they are included and you can be done with it. Good luck.
2007-06-30 08:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by cgslady96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance does not want them, and you are not keen on inviting them, they WHY invite them?
Invite who YOU want to invite.
They do not need to have an invitation just because they are related.
They hate you. They do not support the relationship. Therefore they are not worth an invitation.
Do you really want to look back on your day and look at it with regret?
2007-07-01 09:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll just be giving them more of a reason to complain. Invite them, kill them with kindness. If they come, great, smile and enjoy your day. If they don't, then there are no hurt feelings because at least you gave them the option.
2007-06-30 15:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by callie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just invite them. Even if they dont like you they will most likely want to see thier son get married. I know if he was my brother even if I didnt like his wife to be I'd be hurt by not gettin invited to his wedding, do invite the brother and sisters too.
2007-06-30 06:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by ~lil skater chic~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should invite them and make the best of it. Let them witness the marriage of the two of you.
2007-06-30 07:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Invite them and at least that way they can't say "we weren't invited"
2007-06-30 07:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you and yours sound like good material for the Jerry Springer show.
2007-06-30 06:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋