i met this guy & we really hit it off.Now its a year &1/2 later. we have a 4 month old son together. in my last trimester of my pregnancy i discovered that he had a girl friend of 4 years before we met. he provides for my son & i very well. i really love him & want a family but there is this other woman. Recently she broke it off with him &he seems to be heart broken.he really loves her & now he wants 2 marry her. some people tell me that i should just go with the flow because he does so much for me but money sometimes just isnt enough. i've never been the other woman 2 anyone. i would leave him but my child needs him. what should i do?
2007-06-29 21:24:48 · 12 answers · asked by Enacent H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when i became pregnant to got a house and the three of us live there he my son and myself. he's so hurt by this other woman and i fear that if i leave to where will that leave my trust factor
2007-06-29 22:34:43 · update #1
u already said, u need a family for urself... u jus cant leave him.. and that the other women left him, u too dont leave him jus like that... show him that u r better than her in all ways... and that u now have a child, the child needs him ofcourse...
wen he is in luv with some1 else yrs b4, i dono hw he gave baby to u... anyway but dont leave him...
coz i wil not leave him if i wer u...
all the very best for ur life... :-)
hope everything wil b alrite soooon... if ur luv is true..
2007-06-29 21:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by freebiefrend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can still be in your child's life and not be with you. Plus he would have to pay child support as well so I'm not seeing what the reason is for not leaving him.
I think it's sad that you would stay with him knowing he loves another woman. You can't be happy about all of this and if you're not happy and he's not happy with you then some of that unhappiness will unfortunately rub off on your son.
Your child deserves to be in a loving family and not a family of convenience.
2007-06-29 21:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by fifa575 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant trust him if he kept this from you for so long. the fact that he loves this other woman and wants to marry her should tell you enough that you need to leave him. it sounds like her cares enough for this other woman that he would start it back up with her if she wanted to. leave him but still stay in contact. yes his son should have a father figure in his life but you can not hurt yourself by loving a man that does not love you let alone care enough about you. let him be there for the child but dont take him back, he will jsut hurt you again.
2007-06-29 21:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no future for such a relationship where the other woman is involved. But she's already broken off with him so, how does he want to marry her?Keep quite for some time.He'll get over her soon.
2007-06-29 21:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what he will always be the father of you son, so he will be in your life. Of course continue to take money from him; he should be supporting his son. He should also see his son often. I would not continue a relationship with him unless he wants to make a commitment to you.
2007-06-29 21:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously really wants to be with this other women. Things won't get any better... so you should just end it with him. Yes, it will be hard to deal with for awhile, but things will get easier. Either way, it will be hard on both you and your son. The best thing you can do for your son, and for yourself, is to get out of this messy relationship triangle.
2007-06-29 21:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg god i feel so sorry for you! you should sit down and think, do i need to put myself through this living hell? can u support your son without his money? or can you get child support? please dont let him bring you down! maybe you could think of it like this" now that you have let this douch bag bring you down to this level, now you can start fresh" because if you stayed in that relationship just for money your cheating yourself and your happiness!
2007-06-29 21:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by michelle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is yours by default. Do you really want someone who is still in love with another woman though?
2007-06-29 21:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♠♥ Miss Zora ♦♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him you dont need that in your life.. its gonna be hard on the child either way. one day he will know what daddy is doing .. and be hurt by it or maybe think its right u never know
2007-06-29 21:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by InSaNe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own Q. He is not yours to keep. Find someone that will love u and your kid entrely and be there for u
2007-06-29 21:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋