A person having 60 years going to old age home with the pressure of his family for whom he sacrifice in his young age. Can you think it is fair?
2007-06-29 21:05:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it is not at al l fair a person who was dedicated to you in his old age insteard of looking after him planning to send to old age home its a biggest sin and you have to pay for it.
2007-06-29 21:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Cecil R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the situation. We had to put my dad in a nursing home at age 62, he passed away later that year. We had no other choice as he was completely bed ridden and we were not able to properly care for him at home any longer. Now I've just had to make the decision to place my mother as well. She's only 64. She has been living with me and I've been caring for her, but it's reached a point where the best thing for her is to be placed. I'm simply not able to give her the care that she needs anymore. I've done everything possible to keep her home as long as possible. 60 is young to be in an old age home, but depending on the circumstances, it could be the right place. That being said, if it's a case where the children or child just doesn't want to be bothered by an aging/ill parent, I think it's very wrong to place them in a home. Our parents take care of us from the time we're born until we leave their home, the least we can do is try to give a little of that back. When we placed Dad, I visitied him three or four times every single day unless we were out of town. I did everything I possibly could to make him know that we weren't just 'throwing him away'. I'm not sure if you're the parent or the child.... if you're the child and don't want to place your parent, and they're physically well enough to stay on their own or with you, then step up and say no, this isn't happening. But be prepared to do whatever it takes to keep them at home and meet their needs. If you're the parent, and your health is good enough to live on your own, simply tell them no, you're not going to a home. If you aren't well enough to live on your own, then really think about it and figure out what is best. Going to a home is not always the end. In my dad's case, we knew it was, but in my mom's case, we're planning on her getting rehabilitated and moving back out on her own. She's actually looking forward to professionals being able to take care of her and get her on the road to recovery and rehabilitation. Good luck, whatever you decide!!! It's always a hard decision!
2007-06-30 02:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is best for all concerned, its probably fair. sometimes repaying a loved one for the care they gave you , might be making sure they have just as good of care that they gave, even if its putting them in an old age home.
2007-06-29 21:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by tundra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his family capable of caring for him? Can he care for himself? 60 is not very old. Is he ill? If he has financial income and can somewhat take care of himself then he is way too long to go to an assisted living place. If his kids won't help him there are often social service agencies to help people live on their own.
2007-06-29 21:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, it is not fair. Not fair at all.
2007-06-29 21:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋