I've become anti-social. Help?

Question

I feel like I have almost nothing in common with everyone in my life and it's been that way almost all of my life. I am 22 and I feel like my youth could be spent better than this. Most people I meet are immature aging mall rats, creepy men that aren't very good at hiding the fact that they want to get into my pants, or filibustering drama queens. I don't want to be anti-social but I don't know how else to handle it. Could it be me? Please Help

Answer 1

could you be an 'Indigo Adult' ? i myself felt the same and was really relieved to come across this information re Indigo Adults.... all the best.

an exerpt

" Feeling alone, separate or misunderstood

Your depth of feeling and thinking is often different than those around you.

Unusually sensitivities

Feel limited by the “normal” world around

You’re a visionary – with unusual hopes, aspirations and sense of purpose " more at below links:


http://www.indigoadults.com/
http://www.sunfell.com/adult.htm

Answer 2

It's not you at all... Your view of the world is 100% accurate. I see the world as you do, and I'm also pretty anti-social as a result. Honestly, I don't think it's a bad thing. I've come to accept how different I've always felt as superiority... I am able to see beyond my immediate situation and see the world as a whole, through the eyes of others, (as are you, it seems) and I don't get caught up in the world around me and absorbed by this meaningless, twisted society. I am aware of how messed up and miserable this world is, and I'm smart enough not to be able to fool myself into thinking it's not, simply in order to be happy. Most people simply can't see beyond their own situation... Yet you and I are superior. We see the world for what it is, and it's a lonely place to be. I can offer no advice as to how to become more social, as I don't think that that is the solution for one such as you. I don't really know the answer. It is one I have been trying to find for a long time. I think that I can only suggest you do what I am about to do: LEAVE. I'm personally about to go to Papua New Guinea and the Solomon Islands, two of the least explored places on the planet, just to be around tribal culture and attempt to escape this wretched modern consumer-driven society. I know it's not the most practical advice, but I can personally not offer any other advice, I can only tell you that I understand... It's lonely at the top.

P.S. -- I know that everyone who reads my answer will think I'm terrible, and give me thumbs downs and things, but I know I'm right, and the girl who asked the question will know I'm right when she reads my response... and that's all that's important. Go ahead and give me thumbs down, or report me, but I'm right, and YOU ARE ALL SHEEP!!!!!

Answer 3

I was like that for about 3 years. Then I decided to open my mind for a bit. So I began to attend some activities of those people who seemed had no commonness with me. I reached out and some people opened up to me. And I found out that they actually went through things that I can never imagine. But I also realized that some people are just never going to be my friends. hahhaha, the creepy men part is so funny. People live for the joy of sex, can't blame them. lol, we all want to be loved and that's their way of wanting that to happen.
I recommend doing more of things that you like. Do you like writing poems? writing stories? why not join a local writers' club, i am sure you are going to meet people you have things in common with.
how about connecting with your coworkers?
yeah, hopefully this helped! :D

Answer 4

I don't know where you're finding these people but I have made friends wherever I've gone in my 66 years and many of them I've kept forever. You seem awfully cynical about life in general and people in particular for someone so young. Many of my friends were colleagues from my years of teaching and others from my second career as a mental health professional. There are good people wherever you go but it's gaining skill in picking and choosing carefully according to their personality traits. Look for people who have high morals, a good work ethic, a like faith, honesty, loyalty, sense of humor, and trustworthiness.
.....and to have a friend you must be a friend.

Answer 5

yeahhh i feel the same way
so u dont stand alone on that one!
it could b ur going through a phase..maybe surround urself with different people
but mainly dont b too hard on urself

Answer 6

Its part of the rebellious response one develops when exposed to new surroundings and among people of different wavelength.
This happens to many in your age.
Try yoga and meditation .Pranic healing will help you to calm down and accommodate.

Answer 7

sorry, cant help you, i feel the exact same way though, if it helps.

Answer 8

i can be a help [e-mail]. also try www.socialanxietysupport.com, www.socialanxietyfriends.com.