I have a couple of g/f's at one point of my life said you will be a bridesmaid at my wedding... that was a while ago and we aren't as close now. But they always remember. So far I have just dodged the ? all together but eventually I am going to have to say yes or no. How do I break it to people that I don't want them in it. I would love them as a guest though. I am just scarred that it will make people upset.
2007-06-29 18:10:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First off realize that you will not be able to please everyone and no matter what you do someone will be hurt.
Ask who you want to be in the wedding party, and not those being so presumptuous as to ask if they will be in the wedding.
Just say "you'll know when I ask you" or "I've already asked the people I want to be in the wedding party".
2007-06-30 01:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, the first comment was rude and uncalled for. It is tough to tell people that they are in your wedding. I think you should just tell them you want something small and that it'll just be a few bridesmaids. Not what you'd originally thought. But I dont see how they'd think they were still in it if they haven't even been close to you in a while. Good luck.
2007-06-30 01:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Your wedding is about you and your life. The other people are just other people. Invite the people you want to be around you at the point of your celebration. If they are old friends who have lost touch, maybe you could reintroduce yourself. But hey, we're talking about you. It's what you want, if they've been aloof and gone so long, so what! Invite your friends and people you love! Invite me if you want to. At the end of it all it's not the wedding that matters, it's the life you lead after.
2007-06-30 01:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by ToolManJobber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be honest. I'm sure they will understand that things were said when you were younger that aren't the same now. That's the beauty of growing up. Well for most people anyway.
2007-06-30 01:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by gagirl01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to tell them, dont get their hopes up. If they ask then tell them. If they dont then no worries unless they just expect it straight out.
Better to tell them and get it over with then having to deal with the drama of uninviting them to be in the wedding when the date is closer.
2007-06-30 03:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would think about just going to Vegas!
otherwise, be honest and give detailed reasons for the thoughts that you put behind the decisions of whom you have chosen and live with them. If they are your friend, they will be ok with that anyway.
another option is, put everyones name in the hat. make them present, and draw out the names and call them out. That is fair!
2007-06-30 01:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by donna D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just handle this maturely. Tell friends who you have chosen for your attendants. Don't do it negatively, take the high road and tell them first.
2007-06-30 08:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you love them but you have your Bridal Party already.
2007-06-30 01:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Married!!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say:
I am sorry, but we are keeping things small . . . and not having many attendants. Please forgive me, but we look forward to having you as our guest at both wedding and reception!
2007-06-30 08:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You grow a spine and tell them the truth. If you can't do it now, how will you ever survive marriage?
2007-06-30 01:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 5⤋